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writes:It is possible for someone real feelings and love to change for money? My girlfriends who we have been together for 2 years and recently separated, telling me if you want to prove your love to me please pay for past two months rent (which I haven’t been living there) that way I will have you back!! Otherwise you would prove that you never loved me, she said!! Please someone tell me how can anyone’s love be so cheap? How can someone loves you truly if their love is worth two month rental?, while we had a history of two years relationship together. She was always very much money oriented but I never knew that would affect our love!!!I just feel so sick to even hear this from her, I still love her, and I have to say our relationship was a very turbulent one, but the way she finished with me, I said to myself that I will never look back again, but I loved her so much that may be I could forgive her.So please someone help me, thanks
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reader, Alex706  +, writes (18 January 2007):
What? Don't bother with her. What kind of Person is she? That's all I can say. Actually, what more is there to say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): no offense but you should bin her
love is love not money remember dat song love dont cost a thing. well it dont so just sey to her i still have feelings for you but 2 months rent is a lot of money i cant afford it so if you dont like it then you no what you can do!! and if she finishs you just because you wont give her money then shes a gold digger!!
good luck :D xx
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reader, stina  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 Hi Anon,
The first thing that came to mind was wondering whether or not she's struggling to make ends meet. If this is the case, and you have the extra money to spare so she could get back on her feet, I can sort of understand where she's coming from.
If you really care about her and she's this sick over money, maybe you might want to suggest to her to see a financial advisor. This would be much more benefical than just handing over a wad of cash so she can pay rent (although knowing me, I'd do both - but everyone's different). Or you two could figure out a budget for her to make sure she's happy with her money situation.
The second thing that I wondered is if she spends a ton of money on you and there is no receiprocation on your part. Maybe she's feeling as though she's being used? Have you guys ever talked about who pays for what? Because after a while people tend to burn out with paying for everything.
If both of you are financially stable, and she is really just a greedy person, then I think it's better that you found all of this out before the relationship progressed any further. The longer you are with someone, the more you get to know them. Be happy you found out before getting more serious (getting married, having kids... I can imagine how things would go if you two were to get a divorce, too.)
Honestly I would feel sick over something like this, as well. I don't know all of the details of what you two have already spoken about, but maybe you'd want to call her up and see if there was a reason she wanted the money to prove your love to her. Maybe there was a misunderstanding? If you've already covered this, then I really wouldn't try to talk to her. She sounds very materialistic and shallow. You don't need anyone like that.
Try to stop thinking about her (I know, easier said than done, right?) - put all of her stuff in a box and either send it to her or throw it away, go out with friends, occupy your time with a hobby, concentrate on things at work, etc. You know these feelings will pass, it's just going to take a bit of time.
Take care.
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reader, sexylinz +, writes (18 January 2007):
 hey.
for a start don't you dare give her any money. she's using your love for money. this woman is not worth your love.
i know you love her but you must cut all ties and find someone who's love you do not have to buy.
she really is not worth it at all.
you are woth more than this and you are better off without her.
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