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writes:I recently asked what I should do regarding my partner of 5yrs who was texting another girls for sex first of all thanks to every one who helped. but now my new thing is I've agreed to stay together but can't stop thinking about it how am I going to trust him again. I don't wanna wake up in another 5yrs and find out it was all a lie. please help I have more tears to cry and I also can't stop feeling guilty about being in a mood
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2011): He is going to have to earn your trust, that's how. He is going to have to prove by actions, not just words, that he is stopped texting other women or contacting other women for sex. You should both attend couple's therapy together regularly, he should agree to this in terms of earning your trust. He will need to prove himself to be changing every day.
As he begins to earn your trust you will need to learn to forgive him. Don't use the "well you did this" card at every fight, don't constantly bring it up. It will take time to forgive him. It will take time for him to earn trust.
You have a long hard road and there is no saying if you will succeed in creating a healthy relationship.
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