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writes:I am a married woman having a emotional affair with a single man 8 years younger than me. I met him on a social network. I told him in the beginning I was not leaving my husband cause he loves me. However, I have grown to really like him and think about meeting him. He says he wants me and he knows my age. I am hooked on the great feeling I get when I communicate with him. What am I going to do with these feelings?
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 Social networks are dangerous areas for bored married people. You obviously went looking for something you are missing at home. But meeting someone you only know online is very dangerous. He could be anyone. He could be lying about alot of things and because you want to find someone who excites you, you may have failed to realize this. I think you should disconnect from the network and take a good long look at your marriage and your life. Maybe it's time to get out. Staying only because the other person loves you, is not really fair to him. If you can't bear to leave, then by all means go to counseling. Look for ways to bring the magic back to your marriage before it's too late. It will either help you grow closer or help you make the decision to leave your marriage. Then if you wish to cruise the social networks, the world is your ocean.
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (28 December 2010):
This sort of feelings well most probably Leed you to cheating
If you didn't take a quick action against it instantly
Think of a way to withdraw from him if you don't want to suffer from the feeling of guilt and if you really care about your marriage
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (27 December 2010):
This guy is a complete fantasy in your head. You haven't even met him yet. You're married. How great of a guy is he if he's willing to cheat with you? Do ya think after you lay waste to your marriage and are pushing 60 that Mr. Lookinaround For Some Fun is going to step up and stick with you? Remember the old adage if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you. This is the perfect recipe for a married woman to end up alone. Work on your marriage. You'll be glad you did. Cut contact with this guy, or get ready to pay a heavy price.
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reader, Dreamer1988 +, writes (27 December 2010):
 Sometimes, when you meet a guy online, you click on the internet but may not in person- he may not be exactly what you were looking for. For example, I called someone one time who I met online, and I *hated* the sound of his voice- everything else was great, but his voice was not attractive to me at all. That was a dealbreaker for me... but if you guys talked on the phone, maybe you meet in person, and he has something else you don't like. Or, you fall madly in love with him. My point though is not to get your hopes up. You are married, which is a beautiful thing- you should be with your husband, and work on that relationship. Meet the guy, but like I said, don't be surprised if he's not *everything* you want. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): You are cheating emotionally, and withdrawing from your relationship with your spouse.
Get a couple of books and read them.
"Surviving the Affair"
or
"After the Affair"
or
"Not Just Friends"
Read at least two of them, so you can get a good picture of what is going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): Hi
Why not invest these emotions into your husband ,rekindle the desire you both once maybe had.
If not then be fair to your husband and do not betray him any longer, not leaving him because HE LOVES YOU is actually unfair and takes away his CHANCE to find real love or sexual fun with some new woman .....not the right reason to stay with somebody.
New year on it's way ...decide which year you want and stop cheating or give husband his freedom. Sorry but don't like cheating in any shape or form.
I wish you well though and hope things turn out good for all concerned.
spunky monkey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): if these feelings you are having are not making you feel guilty than maybe its time to reevaluate what your missing in your marriage. are you emotionally satisfied with your husband? if not maybe talking to him about this affair will help you both realize that you may be missing something.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 December 2010):
Cut contact, if you respect and love your husband that much. You say you won't leave, but you're leaving emotionally right now. And at some point, you won't be able to resist anymore and you'll cheat. You've got that feeling now. You're on the verge of cheating.
Why?
If you are serious about your marriage, then you need to cut contact, NOW.
If you want this guy, then end the marriage and move on.
But please don't cheat. Cheating will only wind up with you looking bad.
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