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writes:i am incredibly in love with my boyfriend, no matter how young i am, i still love him, he's asian, so his parents are a little stricter when it comes to his education. They have recently been making sure we dont see eachother as much, taking away his phone so he cant talk to me, not letting me come over to see him and its ripping me apart, i've cried myself to sleep twice in a week, i also got a feeling that his parents dont like me because i am apparently distracting him from his studies, even though in every exam we've ever had he gets straight A*'s, they still want more, i was at his house once and we were in bed together, not doing anything, just laying there holding eachother, our favourite thing to do, and his mum walked in, and she didnt look very happy, she knew we weren't doing anything but she still didnt like it, she even said to him that she doesnt like seeing him hug me! so he cant even kiss me infront of her, this hurts me so much, what should i do about this whole thing? :( Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 His parent's house, thier rules. If they, like I would, find the image of a young girl on or in his bed with him freaked a little, I can totally understand and their being Asian has nothing to do with it!
As for telling people if they are not going to "help" dont respond, dont come to a public forum asking what you can do.
If you only want answers that will justify your point of view go moan about it to your 14 year old friends, they are more qualified for inane answers tailored to suit you.
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reader, soon567  +, writes (26 October 2010):
You took offense to what I had written so let me restated a little clearer.
1.) You said you weren't doing anything yet his mother caught you all hugged up on his bed. What image do you think that cross her mind. A 14 year old girl in her son room all hugged up doing nothing. I think you gave her the wrong impression of yourself intentional or not.
This you need to change. Its their house, their son and you don't need to be there disrespectful. Next time your there stay at the dining room table. 1950 or not you need to treat their home like you're a guest.
Pointless if you can't see anything good or bad in it. You can learn what to do or not to do, yet you got nothing. I would be concern as well if I feel someone would drag my son down too. Do your parents know you hangout in his room doing nothing?
I think you're so blinded by you short temper you want receive or handle any advice unless its in you favor. Its hard raising kids and you would try to limit bad influences at all costs.
I think 14 is to young for dating and its just too much pressure that why at 15 I will not let my daughter date. If your parents let you date then so be it. I wouldn't make the mistake to return to his room.
In no way am I saying your remotely a bad influence on him in anyway. I don't judge people. I just stated what I would have done letting you know his mother isn't out of line.
I think you should tell him to apologize to his parents for groping you in his room. Explain that it will not happen again. Also you keep that attitude in check and forget this because they want.
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reader, dancergirl +, writes (26 October 2010):
dancergirl is verified as being by the original poster of the question i think i clearly said in this that we werent doing anything, blumin hell were 14 its okay to be in his room on the computer with the door open, we were laying on the bed talking to eachother "soon567" you really werent any help, your comment was so pointless, i didnt know i could get pregnant whilst holding his hand, my mistake!we dont live in the 1950's anymore, teens are allowed boyfriends and lives, all i wanted help was to what i should say to him. Yes i have kissed him and got off with him, but i cant do anything around his family, thats what i need help with, if you aint gonna help then please dont comment. Thankyou.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (26 October 2010):
Sorry but if I would have saw that I would have ask you to leave also. I would've never allow you to be in his room in the fist place. I would have asked you to not come back. Don't need any babies. Its not a matter of standing up to his parents its a matter of respect that his parents should be shown. The same day he stands up to his parents is the same day he needs to pack his stuff.
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reader, athena546 +, writes (26 October 2010):
you need to keep in mind that he is youre boyfriend and you are his gf if he can't stand up to his parents to you why are you together
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