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writes:What do i do if an old girlfriend insists on texting my bf every week to lend money?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2016): oh what a fascinating scenario this is.
Seriously ,the ex girlfriend has the gall to contact your man asking him to lend her money?
But how could that be?
No children and no serious ties?
My guess is that she has lent him rather a lot of money in the past and he is not being very forthcoming in making the agreed payments but he has left rather a lot of this out in telling you about it.
Perhaps the truth will be revealed when she finally sues him for repayment of his debts.
By the way are you giving him money now and is he always broke?
If so the plot thickens....
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reader, Fatherly Advice  + ♥, writes (4 February 2016):
 There are a few ways of dealing with this. First, stop reading his texts. It's his Business (not relationship). If she quickly repays him no problem. Second if the loans are affecting the time (not money) he can spend with you. Then you can politely ask that he concentrate on you when you are together. If he is not dating you because she is getting all his discretionary money and not paying it back, you have 2 choices. Start paying for the dates, or Find a BoyFriend with better boundaries and money sense.
Really we do need some more information before we can give you better answers.
Are you jealous of the former girlfriend?
Does he have a monetary obligation to her? Child Support / alimony?
How is this constant contact with her hurting your relationship?
Are these loans gifts, short term, long term, or just an excuse to stay in contact?
Is he getting a promissory not when making private loans?
All this will help us advise you.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (4 February 2016):
 What does your BF do? Lend her money?
Do they have kids together? Is there a reason they are still talking?
I don't think this is for you to solve, honestly. It's HIS problem, his to deal with. If they don't have kids, dogs or property together why does he even stay in contact with her? Specially knowing that she EVERY week-end will ask for money.
I'd tell him exactly what I'd think about it, then wash my hand and tell him to sort it out once and for all.
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