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writes:Long Story short. Me and my guy have been together for a couple years now. His ex-girlfriend of 6 years just moved in with his mom and it's driving me crazy. My BF and I live together about 20miles away from his mom, "all of a sudden", his mom calls him a lot more often, and has plenty reasons for him to come over. I try not to be inseure but I feel a hell- a - lotta disrespected. I cant ask him to stop going to his mom's house, but I hate it when he's over there. sometimes I even invite myself with him, and she comes to the door in little shorts, and towel wraps in shit. Being that she lives there I cant tell her how to dress in her house altough she does live with his mom. His Ex still loves him and I know that he still has feelings for her being his 1st love and all. What do I do? How can I handle it without seeming to be jealous? I am in no way insecure, but this is a tad bit weird, a situation I never could have seen coming.... I am pissed, sad, hurt, i feel alittle betrayed ( even though he has done nothing to me) Please give me advice...
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reader, unappeciatied +, writes (6 April 2010):
unappeciatied is verified as being by the original poster of the questionO.k. First to say thanks. The Ex G/F moved in like over night. No one said anything, no talking about it, nothing. He swares to me, that he had no idea what was going on. And I thought that his mom and I were on pretty good terms. however,His mom has a " Bond" with her. She says that she was always the daughter that she never had, blah-blah-blah. I get so angry when him mom calls him, I feel very insecure when he is over there. up until this point things were great, Now i am very paranoid about this " ex" situation. I cant even tell anyone that I know, it's so embarrasing.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 April 2010):
 You cannot do anything about his ex staying at his mom's place.
You will have to share your concerns and feelings with your b/f about it and let him know where are your limits and boundaries are.
It looks like his mom has a diabolical plan to reconnect him back to his ex.
If your b/f is understanding , he should not go back on any frivolous reasons.
If he goes back , you will have to stick to him like a leach and make them uncomfortable.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (6 April 2010):
Don't worry about feeling insecure in this situation, even the most secure person would feel threatened by this. Yes, it'a bit odd that his ex is living with his mom and how mom is now making excuses for him to come over. All you can do is tell your boyfriend how you feel about this and how it makes you really uncomfortable. If he's a decent guy then he should understand and respect your wishes in this matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): I don't really get why his ex moved in with his mom. That doesn't seem at all right. But I see where you get hurt and jealous. I would be too! Just tell him how you feel and hopefully he will understand and just ignore his ex and mom. It's worth telling him even if it makes him mad. How you feel is important in a relationship. You shouldn't being hiding the fact that you're upset by this because I'm sure every girl would be! Well I hope he'll understand you! :) Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Wow! This woman sounds like the Queen of evil schemeing. This IS an odd situatn so I don't blame you for feelings its weird. I think there are three options.
1) Talk to him. It sucks to have that conversation but he has to respect your feelings.
2) Stick it out. I'm guessing she's doing this with intent to see your boyfriend. She can't stay there forever right? And I imagine, her seeing you, with the man she wants, hurts her. Eventually she will have to understand, it's time to give up.
3) The other option is to win the mother over. She's obviously pivatol to all this. It seems if you have her on your side, you have him on your side.
Good luck.
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