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writes:the person i am in love has a child with his ex girlfriend. i guess that the child will always connect him with his ex girlfriend. i am not jealous, but i think that now she is using the child to get back with him, but he says that he loves me, and also i think that he is confused by the situation.what should i do?
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reader, dear deedee  +, writes (20 November 2007):
if he loves you then he want leave you for her, but he needs to be there for his child, tell him that you understand that he needs to be there for his child, and that you would like to be part of his childs life to. deal with it together as a couple if you plan on staying together then you are going to end up being part of this childs life as well. But you must tell your boyfriend how you feel about this, what you exspect from him. If he dose want to go back with her then nothing you say or do will make him change his mind, just ask him to be honest with you. And remember whatever happens it dosent matter how much you love someone,if they dont love you back you cant make them.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Hard situation. As you have understood the child will connect them until the end of their and may be your life.
If you accept this given fact, and love him love also his child love. Be or try to be understanding towards the mother. But make suer your partner knows where you draw the red line so that you are not fooled or used.
If he cares about you the above attitude will be helpful to support him to balance the situation and be with you.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Don't deal with baby-mama drama. Leave. He needs to make a decision and not put you in the middle of this.
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