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writes:Hello I'm new here, and I really need your help..I'm in a relationship, and have been with him for 15 months now.. It is a long-distance relationship, but we've been doing fine really until about 4 months ago, when I was doing my A Levels and didn't see him for over 2 months.After that, our relationship has changed quite significantly.. There isn't much of the affection, and I feel as though he only wants me for sex, but when I mention this to him, he says it is not true, and that he does love me. When he does show me affection, he does so in silly ways like blowing raspberries on my stomach, biting and tickling me.Recently he has also had talks with me about splitting up, or going on a break.. But when I ask him if he is going to split up with me, he says that he can't because he loves me.I also don't think I'm as attracted to him as I was, and he's alot more snappy with me. Small things are also changing with him, like not putting down "I love you" at the end of messeges and things.. and not wanting to text/talk to me as much as he used to.. I also offered today if I should visit him for 2 weeks, and he said he'd rather I come for a week.. In the past, he would have never said this to me.I really need to know what is happening, or at least have a clue because it is tearing me up inside and I am feeling so depressed about it. whenever we talk about it, I just end up crying and after that I dont think he's honest with me. I also think I'm scared of being alone, or without him, otherwise I would've ended this a long time ago.Please help,Thanks
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Your question has literally left me shaking in my seat... I'm so shocked and a little frightened about how... accurate your words are. They almost exactly match the situation of my own... I'm resisting asking "Is that you??"
God, if I'm wrong, please extinguish what I'm thinking as soon as you can, because right now, I have reason to think you are who I think you are. I don't think all your question adds up to me, but it's pretty close.
Anyway, if you are, please lets talk about this, because you've not been this honest when we've spoken before... and I miss you. Really miss you. Be in touch!
I could be reading WAAAY too much into that, so if I'm wrong, please, please ignore all that, but know that you sound SO much like my former girlfriend. I may come back and offer some advice after I've recovered from the shock!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (30 October 2007):
 He likes you but he's not in love with you and I don't think you are with him either. You like the attention from him and hey who can blame you but that's wearing off now and he's getting bored. The fact this is a long distance relationship doesn't help either.
He likes you but you're not "the one" and he doesn't know how to let you down gently. I know you won't like to hear this but I am being totally honest with you here. It would be better to remain as friends and move on and find someone else closer to home. You WILL get over it though, you're still very young and will probably have more relationships before you finally settle down with that special someone. Use it as a learning curve...
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reader, Karlos Omnis +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Bluntly, you're out of the honeymoon period, and this is the point where just love isn't enough.Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that you're number one. My girlfriend ranks me as roughly number 6, but I don't stress about it, after all that's part of who I love.When you begin to talk of splitting up and breaks, its a slippery slope that you can;t escape from.Sorry to say it, but it seems that this relationship has run its course.Leave while you still have some good memories to look back on and smile.
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