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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 7 months now. We dated in high school for like 3 months and have been friends ever since. All together its been about 7 years. Everything is going good except for the fact that he still calls his ex girlfriend all the time. Whenever I ask him about it, he gets all upset and wonders why I am worried about it. But I feel like it makes me look stupid and it makes her feel that she can still get him back whenever she wants. What should I do?
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reader, sexi  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Hi
My bf's ex tried to contact him once and i had his phone so i called her back. She told me that she and him are good friends and that if she wanted him she would have him but she doesnt and that i mustnt be insecure ( she was vulgar and she is married and has a child) So i told my bf the story and he called her and told her that he doesnt think that they should be friends b/c it is causing a problem in our relationship. I think you should tell your bf that you dont like the idea of their communication and that you would prefer if they didnt speak.Ask him if he would like the idea of you chatting to your ex.Im sure if you explain how you feel he would stop just to make you happy. I know ex gf's are damn hard to deal with. Remind your bf that there is a reason why they broke up and that is why she is called an ex - and she should stay where she belongs in the past.
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reader, Lordtone  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 A very odd one this. You certainly are not stupid for being suspicious/unhappy about the contact with his ex. Does he say that they are long term friends? If she is, then she should be a friend of yours also. You should be able to pick up the phone and speak to her just like you would speak to one of your other friends. She may never be a close friend but you should know her none the less. If he keeps her secretive then there may be a problem. I know lots of girls who would say, quite rightly, do you want me or her? Bite the bullit, ask the question - if he answers with you then say you don't want him to speak to her anymore or thats it for you and him. This will not work however if they are genuinely friends. You need to try and find this out first. If they are friends he will have no problem with you meeting her and all of you going out as friends. To be honest it is rare for an exgirlfriend to be an ongoing friend but it does happen so be cautious. There is definitely a happy ending here one way or the other.
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