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writes:I am 20 years old and have 2 daughters. Ages 1 and 2. I have been with their father for almost 4 years now and since the beginning he has been a very jealous person. He is constantly accusing me of cheating on him and I just recently started going to school and it's even worse now. I have tried to do everything I can to make sure he knows that i love him and only him, but he just tells me that hes not gonna sit around while i go screw other people. Honestly, if i was cheating on him i would not stay here with him, i would leave. I am not cheating but he swears up and down that i am. I have heard that the guilty do all the blaming. Can anyone help me please. I want to be with him but i cant put up with this annymore. im inches away from leaving him. HELP
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reader, penta +, writes (24 August 2007):
 Here is another good article that could help:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2064023_recognize-jealousy.html
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reader, penta +, writes (24 August 2007):
There really isn't a way for you to prove that you're NOT doing something if he wants to believe otherwise. He needs counseling, desperately, and you should go with him. DO NOT let him make you quit school. If he can't trust you, then you don't have much of a relationship to save.
I got the following steps for building trust from http://www.ehow.com/how_2004257_build-trust-relationship.html
(1) Know who you are and make sure your partner knows, too. Don't be afraid of who you are. Until you are comfortable inside your skin, trust is always going to slip through your fingers.
(2) Build respect for yourself. When you respect yourself as a person, you give others good reason to believe that you will respect them as people.
(3) Let your actions match your words. When your partner can see that what you do and say line up, the trust is easy to come by.
(4) Meet adversity in the relationship head-on and solve the problem. Letting things linger unresolved siphons away the trust because it puts a damper on the momentum of a relationship.
(5) Give the person a reason to trust you. Share the exploits of your day. Talk about your plans for the future. Always be open and honest about what you are doing, and when you are doing it.
(6) Be calm. Ever hear someone describe their partner as their rock? Being calm gets you there.
(7) Talk to each other about everything, not just about the important stuff.
(8) Compromise when facing a problem. By showing that you are willing to bend, your partner will also made adjustments.
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