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writes:I've had problems in the past with my boyfriend speaking to other girls but in like sexual ways "hey sexy", he was speaking to girls he's slept with in the past, a girl sent him a photo and his reply was "now that is sexy" .. This caused a massive argument in our relationship and I didn't know what to do. I never thought he would do this to me and I had to think hard about what to do as we have been through a lot since we got together. I decided that I would go against my "no second chance" rule and he said he would prove to me that I can trust him no matter how long it takes. This was October 2014.Since then he has changed so much, he no longer acts suspicious, he always tells me he loves me, he always treats me. I know non of this will prove I can trust him as I don't 100% trust him. However, I find myself getting jealous when he speaks to girls. I don't like being jealous as it makes me one of those girls who acts paranoid. How can I stop myself being so jealous? Is it normal?Please give me some advice.
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reader, Miss.Cupid  +, writes (28 March 2015):
 the thing is, just because youre aware his not doing that to other girls, doesn't fully mean hes not doing it at all.
I'm not here questioning your relationship. however I personally don't believe guys can change, if you feel like he has then good for you. but maybe he's just become a better liar?
I myself have a one minute rule, it probably sounds completely silly but it works. one min you swap phones, don't tell him you plan to do it just let him know seconds before you do it. if he has something to hide he'll sound protective over his phone if he swaps with you (screen unlocked)you have a minute to check if hes all into you or if hes hiding something. The huge rule though is that if there are messages you focus on what he's telling them and not what theyre telling him, because youre answer is if hes annotating the contact or if hes making it clear hes with someone. don't take advantage of this however. this is only if youre skeptical only way you'll find your answer. good luck
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reader, Dapril09 +, writes (28 March 2015):
 Girl I am going through the same but on a different scale. My Fiance also messed around and promised to change after a couple of times of getting caught. He did change but now I am crazy jealous crying over things that are irrational like my body compared to other girls. My self confidence and trust towards him have completely vanished. We have been together for 2 years now and all I can say is its an every day struggle but if you really feel like you want to stay with him then youll have to redirect your thoughts when they turn negative and always remember what you have to offer. The best way to think about it is he is trying to mend his ways for you so you must mean alot to him but if he were to mess up again then you are too good for that and need to walk away. You cant help what he will do but you cant cloud your thoughts with jealousy cause it poison for your soul & no guy should have that power over you. If you can deal with it just try to stay away from jealous thoughts, if you feel like its too much, walk away and find someone who will be worthy of your trust.
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