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Does this mean he likes me, or am I friend zoned?

Q.   Might be a bit young, but I’m a freshman who likes a sophomore. Now last year he started giving me hugs when ever I’m about to leave, same this year. (Extra information: Our school is small, so I see him often the the hallways or after school.) I’m ...

A.   8 November 2018: I'm assuming he's just trying to be friendly with you. You can't assume by him hugging you that he's interested..but then again you guys are in high school and boys are a little clueless at that age lol. Maybe spark up a conversation with him, get ... (read in full...)

How do I make my intentions known without coming across as creepy?

Q.   Hi this may seem trivial but I have not long gotten out of a long term relationship nearly 10 years. But I have no idea how to express interest in another woman it's been that long. There is one I am really interested in but 130 miles sepertes us. M...

A.   5 November 2018: Just take it slow get to know them, talking to them through out the day ask what they're doing how they're doing. Show you care and it will slowly possible transition to something more.... (read in full...)

He can't say I love you to me but we keep breaking up and getting back together. I don't know what to do

Q.   Okay, this is going to be long and I apologize in advance - I’ll try to summarize as much as possible. Two years ago (August 2016) I started my masters program in a big city. I was on dating apps for fun, mostly, not looking for anything serious...

A.   5 November 2018: You sound a lot like me. In my last relationship all I ever cared about was those three words "I Love You" and when I heard it the first time and kept hearing it I knew it wasn't true. I knew he was only saying that because its what I wanted to ... (read in full...)

Too invested after a few dates?

Q.   I’ve been on five dates with a guy. We slept together on three of the dates. We definitely fancied each other, but during date number four he said that his long term goal is to work away. I’ve been in a relationship in the past with someone who ...

A.   18 February 2018: If you feel like you just cannot be in that position again then you did the right thing. It may have only been the fifth date but you both know what you want and aren't settling for anything less. Thats how it should be. Why drag something when ... (read in full...)

I like her but I'm confused

Q.   So me and this girl have been talking for quite a while now. I didn't want to rush into anything and we like eachother lots but I don't know i'm confused about it.I really like her but on the other hand, I feel like i'm not good enough for her. I'm ...

A.   24 November 2017: Hello, I hope you understand that when someone likes you its not just because of your looks. Maybe she likes spending time with you, the conversations you guys have, you guys share the same interests, etc. Im not saying you're not good looking, ... (read in full...)

Men never hit on me

Q.   I am 22 and I never had a bf before or ever dated. Guys never approach me for dates and never even approach me even for sex (so I guess that makes me a virgin also). I am also never hit on by guys or had a guy say he wants my number. I am 5'4 and ...

A.   31 August 2017: Theres absolutely nothing wrong with you. Once you hit 24 and have never had a bf then we'll talk lol. But on a serious note the reason why men don't approach you I think has to do more with society rather then you. I mean now a days everything ... (read in full...)

Why would a man still hang onto his girlfriend even if he is cheating with other women?

Q.   If a guy is cheating on his girlfriend, why would he not leave her? He obviously is not the right man for her. So, why not just leave her, let her find a better man for her, instead of hang onto her knowing he is hurting her? Clearly a rel...

A.   31 August 2017: I believe the reason why they cheat is because theres something in that relationship they lack. Maybe the fun, excitement. Once a relationship reaches a comfortable zone the guy feels like their girl doesn't do the things they used to. Like wild ... (read in full...)

Do I pick my FWB or the girl I was dating?

Q.   Hi all. In much need of some help to sort out this insanity I've found myself in. So I've been in a friend's with benefits relationship with a woman for 2 years now. She's actually become my very best friend. But I also have a girl who is supe...

A.   16 July 2017: I think you should step away from both and figure yourself out. Its not fair to have both girls waiting around. ... (read in full...)

Should we try to rekindle our friendship?

Q.   So this might not be a typical relationship, however, more of a friendship thing. So me and two girls used to be very close friends - call them A and N so it's easier. Me and A fell out with N over silly arguments and ended up hating each othe...

A.   16 July 2017: I do feel like sometimes you cant really be as close of a friends with someone as you used to, however, that doesn't mean you cant sit down and talk to them. Coffee sounds like a good idea, I mean I'm sure you guys are mature enough to leave th... (read in full...)

Is there anything in this astrology thing?

Q.   Do any aunts and uncle believe in fortune teller? Are there any experience from aunts and uncle here? As a chinese, many of us believe in fortune teller and physic reading. But i was raised in an atheist family and not a believer of mystical thin...

A.   16 July 2017: I am one of a few that actually believe in psychics. However ive had sketchy experiences as well. I am very fascinated in wanting to know my future, usually because I don't know where my life is heading and I want to make sure its in the right ... (read in full...)

Now it's hard to trust

Q.   A little while ago I left a guy who tried to control me. After bad dating experiences I had walls up, so I was able to pick up on things that didn't feel right. The attention was flattering at 1st, but then got emotionally draining, he didn't tr...

A.   15 July 2017: I think you're looking into signs of him leaving too carefully. Relax, go with the flow and see what happens without expecting anything. Don't lose your mind over thinking. Good Luck.... (read in full...)

He keeps staring at me. Does that mean something?

Q.   So here is my story. I encountered a guy at my university whom I have posted about before. I caught him staring at me when I was buying something at the student bar shop. He was sitting right behind us and I saw him look at me couple of times. This ...

A.   15 July 2017: He may be interested in you and not know how to approach you. As far as texts, do you guys text each other at all? if not I think you should put a ball on his court and text him, goodmorning, how are you, etc. I'm sure when you leave for the ... (read in full...)

I almost cheated with this married woman. Do I tell her husband what she does?

Q.   Mostly as a result of feeling sexually neglected by my wife, who is unwilling to understand there's a problem, I was recently tempted to cheat on her with another married woman. Now, I need to be clear- there was no sex, but the temptation was t...

A.   15 July 2017: By kissing another women you do realize that is still in fact considered it maybe once you found out she was a serial cheater that you felt this anger because you thought you were the only one? only to realize that there are multiple ... (read in full...)

Why would he lie about who he is?

Q.   I met this guy online and we've been talking for six months now. I'm in the US and he's in Canada. We ve been texting and video chatting almost every day and he says that he's falling for me, I'm his dream girl and he wants me to be his girlfriend. ...

A.   15 July 2017: He seems bored and is entertaining not only you but probably also other women that he shouldn't while in a relationship. This is why I don't trust any online talking and dating, you can't ever really trust a person. If I were you I would stop was... (read in full...)

What signs should I look for?

Q.   Is it normal to look for signs that point to more than friendship? I've had this sort of thing going on with a guy I really like and we do lots of things and spend lots of time together, and there are lots of signs that it is something more but we ...

A.   14 July 2017: Have you thought about just being straight forward with him and tell him you like him? You haven't really given much details about additional signs. But if you feel like he likes you then he probably does. When a guy likes a girl he definite... (read in full...)

He tells me that I'm special, but doesn't make me feel like I am

Q.   So I've been with my boyfriend for a long time now. He would always call me pretty and beautiful. It would make me feel so special. Recently though during a normal conversation which escalated to him telling me about who he thinks the hottest person ...

A.   14 July 2017: Am I the only one that doesnt see this as a big deal? Why ask a question you don't want answers to? To be honest with you I've asked this my ex before and he said I was in the top three (meaning there were two more girls above me) now of course ... (read in full...)

Should I send one last txt?

Q.   Hi all. I rarely get dates so was well excited when i finally got one. The guy said he felt a connection before we met i held back because i didnt want to put all my feelings on him and get hurt. The date was great we did have a few drinks and went ...

A.   14 July 2017: Everyone that says we can be friends before or after a date is usually lying. I wouldn't text him, to be honest with you I don't think he deserves your text. you seem like a very lovely lady that just got caught up in the moment and did some fre... (read in full...)

It's not an affair, right?

Q.   I found out my partner has been in contact with her ex saying that she misses him. We've been together two years. I don't think they have met up just exchanging calls and messages. Should I be concerned? It's one thing to say you miss someone but...

A.   14 July 2017: How exactly do you know this? I wouldn't necessary be concerned. But you're here asking for advise meaning you need help. I don't know if you have anyone close you can speak to regarding this if not its okay. Let me be your cyber friend. ... (read in full...)

Is it stupid to take back my ex in a month or two?

Q.   I had been in a relationship for almost 6 years (engaged to be married) and my fiancé informed me almost a month ago he likes another woman. After plenty of time I decided one night to leave him and moved everything out and back to my parents ho...

A.   14 July 2017: Why two months? What if then it'll be too late and he'll be with that woman he likes? Crying over the phone isn't good enough. You have to have respect for yourself at the end of the day. You're currently not married. But imagine going back to hi... (read in full...)

Is this happening too quickly?

Q.   Preface: So, 11 weeks ago I posted a question on this website to seek help with an (almost) four-year-old relationship. Two wise people gave me the advice to end the relationship - advice I ignored until about a month ago when I finally made the...

A.   14 July 2017: I mean love is love. You can control who you fall for and sometimes you may have the strongest connections with someone you've just met rather than someone you've known for a long time. I think maybe you should do some cleaning around the hous... (read in full...)

I can't believe that after all his drama, HE dumped me! I need closure. What do I do?

Q.   Hey guys! Just need a little advice at the moment! Hope you can help! I met a guy at my job that I started dating.. before anyone says "Don't date people you work with".. I usually don't, and I only made an acception because he works in anot...

A.   14 July 2017: I completely agree with everyone above me. Sometimes you don't need closure all your questions are answered by actions. To be completely honest with you he doesnt seem like a settle down type. He has a kid, baby mama drama and he deals with his... (read in full...)

Should I let the children meet?

Q.   My question has a little bit of history behind it. So about eight years ago I was at the eight month mark dating a boyfriend when I was in my early twenties and he cheated on me with his best female friend so we broke up and a few weeks later I ...

A.   14 July 2017: your daughter only being 7 I'm sure she doesnt see it as a big deal of who her father is. But I'm sure it'll matter to her when she's older. The last thing you want is her hating you when she's older for never letting her see her real father. ... (read in full...)

Should I try and see what happens with him or do I let it go? Thoughts!

Q.   So at the end of last year, I was hanging out with my (70 year old- looking like 50 aunt) LOLLL, and we went to pick up her granddaughter, but before we went to ta gas station and cafe, a very nice spot which happened to be in front of her ...

A.   14 July 2017: So I'm assuming you are now single? I think you answered your own question. "perhaps he is worth it, you never know" exactly! Maybe go alone and speak with him. I don't think you need your grandmother holding your hand in the process. Go alo... (read in full...)

How can you distinguish when someone is in to you?

Q.   How can you distinguish when someone is into you? I am gay and not the most confident of people, I don't typically look gay and it's not something one drops into the conversation!! What I am trying to say is, it's so much easier for straight peo...

A.   14 July 2017: I'm a straight woman and I'm also straight forward. You're in the 26-30 age range which means that the lady you're thinking about is most likely in the same age range. So why not be straight forward and ask her out. You'll either get a yes or a ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a good guy but I'm not in love with him anymore. There's also a new man on the scene but he's in a relationship. I'm clueless about what to do

Q.   Hi Aunts and Uncles. I'm posting this here because I have always had good advice here before and I have no one I can speak to about this. I feel like such an awful person for what I am about to write but I can't go on keeping it in my head. It's ...

A.   13 July 2017: Okay first of all what you're doing is wrong but its not completely wrong. I want to tell you that I have a friend who was in a relationship with her first serious boyfriend at 16 they got married when she was 20 but now she is 25 and divorced. Let ... (read in full...)

Now it's hard to trust

Q.   A little while ago I left a guy who tried to control me. After bad dating experiences I had walls up, so I was able to pick up on things that didn't feel right. The attention was flattering at 1st, but then got emotionally draining, he didn't tr...

A.   13 July 2017: It is completely normal to feel that way. However, don't let that fear of whether or not he'll walk away ruin something good that may come out of the relationship. I think fear is normal but don't let it affect you in a way of feeling like you ... (read in full...)

I cheated on my fiance and am looking at others because of the lack of sex in our relationship

Q.   Looking for advice... I'm marrying my fiancé next year whom I've been with for 9 years. We've had our ups and downs over the years and he's not had much time for me over the past couple of years as he's been studying on top of his full time job. Thi...

A.   13 July 2017: At the end of the day sex really is what keeps a relationship stronger. However, sex with the person you're with and not other people. How can you say you can't see your life without him if you have just now slept with someone completely different ... (read in full...)

I've fallen in love with my brother in law and I'm not sure where to go with these feelings

Q.   My husband passed away unexpectely in August of 2016. We had been separated for 2 years but we were working on our relationship towards getting back together just before he passed. We have a 21 year old daughter and she was greatly affected by his ...

A.   13 July 2017: I believe you fell in love with him because of the hard times you're facing and he is there for you. To be honest with you I don't know if I would go there with him? I mean do you believe he feels the same, does he do anything that makes you beli... (read in full...)

Desperately seeking sex

Q.   Im single and i have been having a few dates here and there. Its all fine but im not getting any connections with anyone. Im quite horny now and miss the regular sex and dirty talk. Sex toys and masturbating are fine for a while but its just not the ...

A.   12 July 2017: Well you have to think of all the places that guys are, where they are not looking for anything serious. Maybe a bar, club, go on a date and have them take you home. You're welcome lol... (read in full...)

Relics of the past are starting to get to me

Q.   When divorced, should one get rid of souvenirs from the honeymoon, and the rings? I'm in a serious relationship with a divorced man. He still has the wedding rings (says he will sell them, but nothing has been done still), and he often wears t-sh...

A.   12 July 2017: My question is who ended the marriage? did the ex spouse end it or him? ... (read in full...)

Do these fake profiles suggest he's living a double life?

Q.   Hello,so let me start off by saying that my boyfriend(in his 30s) has never been the ''social media'' type of guy or at least that's what he told me, He does not like pictures to be taken of him or even with me!, so one day during thanksgiving 2014 ...

A.   21 January 2017: I agree with my colleges. why not just ask him why he has a fake account? to be honest with you, maybe he's insecure and using a fake profile to make friends because he feels like he can't make real ones? talk to him ask him about it. never heard ... (read in full...)

He's really trying to do all the right things. But my jealously is the problem. How can I stop being this way?

Q.   I've had problems in the past with my boyfriend speaking to other girls but in like sexual ways "hey sexy", he was speaking to girls he's slept with in the past, a girl sent him a photo and his reply was "now that is sexy" .. This caused a massive ...

A.   28 March 2015: the thing is, just because youre aware his not doing that to other girls, doesn't fully mean hes not doing it at all. I'm not here questioning your relationship. however I personally don't believe guys can change, if you feel like he has then good... (read in full...)

Really starting to fall for one of my friends

Q.   Im starting to really fall for one of my close friends. Were together all the time, we share the same group of friends and I was never interested in him in this way but a few weeks ago at our friends halloween party he said goodbye to me and when he ...

A.   28 November 2013: This is tricky. Because things can either turn out really great, or a great friendship can be ruined. I would just wait it off, maybe flirt a little with him to see if there are any reactions. Good Luck.... (read in full...)

Do I fear women?

Q.   I have a question, and maybe you can give me a bit of insight. I am a 21 year old straight male, and I am going to step out on a limb here and say that I am very attractive. The only reason I say that is because I don't think I am, but many lad...

A.   28 November 2013: i am a woman. so i will give you a little insight. i understand that you find yourself attractive. that's great because if you don't love yourself, who will? now your last relationships play a huge part of your fear of women. I don't believe yo... (read in full...)

He freaked out just as he was gonna go down on me

Q.   Hey.. Ok My boyfriend and I have been together for a month, I'm 16 and he is 18 we are both virgins and have not done anything other than had a handjob and been played with abit In past relationships, we were mates for ages but yeh, basically w...

A.   8 November 2013: I know you're only 16. I don't want to be an old fashioned and tell you that you're too young. So ill just say this. Are you afraid that he may not like you after this? Because it sounds like you're insecure about what he may think. Take things slow ... (read in full...)

Do you think my co-worker will ever ask me out?

Q.   theres this guy I like at my job,im new there well since ive been there he been nothing but xtra nice to me, he'll ask me how my day is going,always smiling at me...he'lol wait for me to get off work if we get off at the same time and ride the ...

A.   25 October 2013: I think he was just trying to make you feel comfortable by being naturally flirtatious. However at this time you cant really do anything Maybe you ran before you can walk? by admitting your feelings right away. The ball is on his court, so just wai... (read in full...)

Should I trust my friend's judgement and possibly skip some heartache?

Q.   So basically I like this guy at my college who's into music and stuff,but I've been way too nervous to talk to him. I told a friend of mine (who he happens to hang out with)that I liked him, and I joked that she should give him a hint that someone ...

A.   22 October 2013: your close friend has no reason to lie to you, she sounds honest to me. However I do actually suggest that you see what happens with him, the fact that his coming of as a jerk, maybe its a bad idea that you have your friend do all the work. You ... (read in full...)

Is it OK to go on dates with more than one guy?

Q.   Dear agonyaunts, I am 27 and most friends my age are either married or in stable relationships. I have had two unsuccessful long-distance relationships and I am seriously trying to find a guy who is a good match and is worth sharing a life with. ...

A.   22 October 2013: if guys ask you on a date you are more then welcome to go on them, especially if you feel attraction between you two. If the two guys know each other, its probably not a good idea to go out with both of them at the same time. Because one of them... (read in full...)

Is this something that can be salvaged or should I throw in the towel now and save myself time and heartache?

Q.   I'm really unsure if me and my boyfriend have a future together. After nearly a year together I discovered texts on my boyfriends phone begging his ex to get back with him from around the time we got together. I snooped on his phone, don't ask...

A.   22 October 2013: I think his ex is just that one girl he will never get over, even though his with you. she's his true love, But usually there are red flags when it comes to these cases. And of course the number one red flag is if you sense something is wrong, or if ... (read in full...)

I texted her my feelings and her reply caught me by surprise!

Q.   Well, i honestly don't know what to say. I texted this girl. My feelings or yer on and off, and tonight i took my chances and told her. And the response be-founded me. She told me she's in a relationship, with another girl? Now, im not fus...

A.   22 October 2013: what you can do to make sure she isn't lying is to hangout. Even though you told her how you felt, you cant change it back. You can however tell her that you are happy for her, and want to meet her. She told you she was seeing someone whether its ... (read in full...)

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