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writes:im seventeen years old and ive been going out with my boyfriend since i was fifteen, however we have been friends since i was twelve. By looking at our relationship from an outsiders perspective, you would think that it was perfect. Even my own mother thinks that my boyfriend is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I agree, i love him to death but lately i dont know what has been going on. He wakes me up every morning and for some reason doesnt want me sleeping in during the summer. When i post surveys up on my blog account he reads them all and then texts me and asks me the questions on them to make sure im giving him a truthfull answer. If one day i want to hang out with my girl friends, i need to ask him if i can, i need to tell him where im going, i need to tell him everyone whos there and what we are talking about. I often go for walks in my neighborhood and when i do so, he needs to know what street im on. If we are together and my phone rings, he goes after it. If im texting even my own parents, hes over my shoulder reading it... I feel like my whole life is controlled by him. Last night i told him i was truthfully wasnt happy and i cried my eyes out and all he had to say back was yes you are happy. But then again he cried too. Im so confused i dont know what to do anymore, this is tearing me apart. please help
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (7 September 2009):
 Sounds like you've got someone special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all that really helped alot. i told him that i just need to breathe a little and hes been doing a great job of making sure im happy. He even baked me a cake to make it up to me. thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): I would let him go. Space doesn't usually help people like this. Not the people that I've been with anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): He sounds very controlling, it is unhealthy, i think you two need to take a break, he has taken on an unhealthy role as boss to you. You are your own person, you can do what you want as long as you don't cheat on him.
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reader, celestial  +, writes (25 August 2009):
For sure honey, you need your personal space! This is not about you liking him or not? You need to tell him that he's being too controlling and to back off a little. And that is not that you don't love him. It's just that you need air to breath so you can love him more. For example, even if you listen to your favorite song over and over, eventually you'll grow tired of it. But, if you stop listening for a while you'll like it again? Or the, if you grip a bird too tight it will chock but grip it too loosely and it will fly away.
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