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writes:So, I posted a question yesterday about pushing my bf away with my jealousy and insecurities, if you read it thanks so much.. Here's where I am now: he text me last night, after 24 hours of NC, and wished me a happy vday and said he loved and missed me. I woke up this morning and decided to send him a text message that said "I'm really missing you, Josh". I haven't gotten a reply, but when I went on facebook this morning, 5 minutes prior to me sending him that random text he'd posted on his status that he misses me. I'm confused. He's posting he misses me and sending me a text that says he loves and misses me but there's still no real conversation. What do I do here? It seems like all that's going on are reassurance texts or something. Like he's just making enough contact to make sure I'm still hanging on. What do I do? Clearly, he and I need to talk but there's no communication. It's like I'm standing on the outside looking in while he's writing on a chalkboard that he misses me and that's where it ends. If you read my story yesterday, please help. I really do love this man but without any real contact/communication I'm at a loss.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (15 February 2013):
 Ignore it.
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reader, academic_moss +, writes (15 February 2013):
academic_moss is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe contacted me today and has decided to take me back. I've realized that I'd rather be with him than without, and my attitude has caused me to be on the verge of losing the person that I love. When he did take time to contact me I was taking it for granted, accusing him of stuff without reason. Now that he's been distant I realize I can't be without him. I'm going to fix my problem before I lose him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 February 2013):
 Sounds like he's screwing with your brain.
He can only do so - and continue to do so - if you "Let" him do so.....
The "answer", of course, is to simply forget him and get on with your life. NO MAN is worth the anguish that you've described and enumerated in your submittal...
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): Simple, he's playing you OP and he's enjoying it. The only way he'll want to contact you is if you completely stop trying to contact him.
He's feeding off the fact you still want him, but you're also acting like the clingy, overbearing psycho he originally decided he couldn't handle.
OP let him go. Stop reading his facebook posts and stop sending him messages, I didn't read your other question but I don't need to in this circumstance, he'll only want to talk to you when he really feels he's missing you. How can he miss you when you're still all over him and messaging him?
Plus people only post I miss her and whiny douchebag little shit like that for sympathy and attention from saps who like to feed soppy little pricks like that.
Unless you can find a way of moving on, he will have no desire to contact you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): I think you should just put your foot down and tell him "We need to talk" because from reading what you have written it doesn't seem like either of you are making an effort on trying to conversate about the situation that bother of you are currently in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): You know cell phones arent only for txting... why dont you just CALL him and make plans to meet up? Doesnt sound that difficult to me. If he doesnt respond move on hes playing games. If hes playing games better to move on.
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