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writes:Hi folks,There is this guy I'm friends with at work. (I don't see or chat to him outside of work for various reasons) we both get on really well, but when he's not at work I feel really fed up, like there's no point if he's not here. We flirt occasionally when we are bored but more often than not we chat about music and other interests.I guess my question is how do I get rid of this, it's annoying to be affected like this I don't get this with other friends, but when he isn't at work I miss him. I know it's silly but I can't help it.Any ideas how I can get rid of this feeling when he's not around?
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reader, peapod  +, writes (17 February 2013):
Sounds like you have a crush on this guy at work. You don't elaborate on the reasons you don't talk outside of work but i think you should text or something. The only problem is that you are at work and they may frown upon workplace romances. You are young though and may not have as serious of a job. Ultimately try to make your relationship stronger. You want his attention and by talking outside of work more you will get that. In return that will put you more at ease
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for everyone else's comments they have been very helpful, I guess I never really considered taking further than a friendship.
I'm only at my current workplace till July so I may use you idea and get his number to chat outside of work.
The main reason we don't chat outside of work already is the office romance thing we didn't want people to get the wrong idea, you know what gossips like.
Thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's the thing I'm an ict technician I'm busy most of the day it doesn't mean that while I'm working I can't think about him. I also have an hour lunch to contend with. I no I asked for comments but no need to insult my job performance I run a school network from ages 7 to 19, I work alone and around the clock.
That's another reason why I don't understand why I miss him as I don't get that much time with him.
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reader, when nothing goes right go left +, writes (15 February 2013):
 It seem' s like you may be developing feelings for him and when you start developing feelings for someone then its not just something that you can shake off. And whats the problem anyway because he might like you too. And yeah working together isn't exactly the ideal situation but people that you really connect with don't allways come around so often so you should start getting to know him more and build up flirty banter with him and see how he responds and if he carries it on then you could ask him about how he feels about you.Hope this helps.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 February 2013):
You write: "Any ideas how I can get rid of this feeling when he's not around?..."
The first thought that comes to my mind is: How about paying attention to your JOB (what your boss is PAYING YOU TO DO during the work-day....) and NOT waste "his" (your boss's) time thinking about this paramour of your's?????
Just askin'.....
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reader, peapod +, writes (15 February 2013):
Sounds like you have a crush on this guy at work. You don't elaborate on the reasons you don't talk outside of work but i think you should text or something. The only problem is that you are at work and they may frown upon workplace romances. You are young though and may not have as serious of a job. Ultimately try to make your relationship stronger. You want his attention and by talking outside of work more you will get that. In return that will put you more at ease
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