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writes:I had been dating and intimate with the same man for over a year. He is quite a bit older than me. The sex is over-the-top, yet I backed out of our engagement due to some issues of his that seem to be unresolvable (financial, family, baggage, etc). I am currently seeing a different guy, yet the sex with my new guy is not satisfactory.. I have not achieved an orgasm yet(we have been together several times) and he doesn't last over 3 minutes. I have trouble even getting wet for this new guy, yet I really love him. With my ex, I always achieve full and multiple orgasms and am wet to the point of embarrassment sometimes. HELP!! This new guy has all that I want in a man, except the sex. I have even been back with guy #1 a couple of times just for the sex... I feel terrible... What do I do to make it better or do I go back to guy #1??
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): I think you should gently tell him that you would like to try "this or that", ask him to give it a try, to brake the routine a little bit. That way maybe you'll find news ways to make you two more compatible. If he's perfect for you, he will do whatever makes you happy and he'll probably enjoy it more too.There is a possibility that he thinks what he's doing is what you like/that's enough... so, just give him a little help to improve the situation. If you two have good and relaxed communication, take advantage of that fact and talk with him. The adventure of discovering each other secrets will probably be fun... it's a good excuse for having sex more often and spice things up a little bit.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 I think you should not go back to Guy n° 1, because you don't love him. Stay with Speedy, and kindly let him know that he needs to last a bit more.
I remember that SatinDesire (a great agony aunt) posted something about clitoral stimulation techniques. Maybe you can "inadvertently" suggest that to Speedy?
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