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writes:I am married and have been on and on involved with a married man/friend on and off. He is now asking me to text him pictures of my breasts with a bra on and without. I trust him completely, but not sure if I should send them or not. We have never seen each other naked yet. We talk about it, and how we can't wait to see each other. Was it wrong of him to ask me that and will it change our relationship? Will he think I am "slutty" if I do that, even though I am far from that (which I really do think he knows).
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): Listen I have nothing against your affair, on the contrary, sometimes it's just these affairs which makes our lives livable. However, sending such photos is very risky, you have no idea where they could end up. You situation could be ruined entirely.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 I wouldn't send him anything to be honest, and if he was a good guy he wouldn't ask and he definitely wouldnt be having an extra marital affair.
It may be exciting and make you feel good now but in the end it's just going to be a huge miserable mess that is going to make everyone around you think your a slut...you could also lose everything you have.
Is it really worth it?
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reader, Odds +, writes (6 April 2011):
 There's really no diplomatic way of saying this.
If you're married, and he's married, and you're still in a relationship with him, he already thinks you're a slut - no matter how much he says otherwise. Sending the picture will not change that. Refusing to send him the picture will make him think you're trying to convince him you're not a slut - which won't change his opinion.
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (6 April 2011):
Please read the titles of these news articles:http://mydeathspace.com/article/2009/03/07/Jessica_Logan_%2818%29_hanged_herself_after_her_boyfriend_circulated_a_nude_photo_of_herhttp://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/29546030/ns/today-parenting/
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): From what you've described what he's asked seems to be a natural evolution of your relationship.You don't want to hear this but I've been with a woman for 7 years who is married. It's miserable in the long term.Walk away and never look back
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): You can never be 100% sure of who will get to see a picture you send. Does that your decision any easier?
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reader, Yetilicious +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Questions like this always amaze me. All of these questions are irrelevant. IF he is married, don't do it. IF You are married, DEFINITELY don't do it. You made a promise to your husband, maybe you should focus on him and if there are problems...focus on fixing them instead of worrying whether or not sending pictures of your boobs to a married man is slutty. Let me ask you a couple questions. How would you feel if you found out your husband sent a picture of his penis to a woman he worked with who was asking for it? How would you feel if you found out your husband was asking another woman to send him pictures of her boobs? As for your original question, will he think you're slutty? Who knows, he's probably just using you and trying to get some sex on the side. I wouldn't send him a picture of my boobs. However, I wouldnt be having a secret relationship with a married man, let alone when I'm married. But it's up to you. Send the pic, maybe he will forward it to your husband who in my opinion deserves to know what his wife is doing behind his back. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just telling the truth. Whatever you have going with this married man is WRONG, and you will only end up regretting it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): seems like you are excited for having an affiar .... but if you do really want to have one - seems like you are already having one at this point - why do you care of what he thinks ? Just do it .... Personal advice .... Dont get into all these things ... it will ruin your life !
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