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writes:Im in a one year ldr. my girlfriend just moved from her parents place and now she is sharing an apartment close to her campus with another girl.when her roomate boyfriend goes to see her, he comes along with his buddy. They talk and have drinks. it looks to me as double dating. I have a feeling her roomate boyfriend is bringing his buddy over to her apartment with not so good intentions. I trust my girlfriend but i just cant help to see that as a threat to my relationship. I just have a very bad feeling... Since she moved she has been going out much more often to have drinks with her friends. way far than being jelaous im very sad. we have a happy relatioship, we are sweet to each other and love each other but i dont know... something is telling me the end is near. am i just being paranoid? her roomate boyfriend is taking his male friend to see my ld girlfriend. Reply to this Question
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (8 April 2013):
It doesn't sound good but think of it as a test. It wouldn't be fair to prevent her from hanging out with them altogether (and it'd just cause her to lie), but I don't think it's appropriate for her to be hanging out all the time.
Express your nervousness to her and see what she says. Tell her you're not happy with her putting herself in a double date with alcohol situation. In the end if the relationship fails because she couldn't resist temptation then you weeded out someone that wasn't marriage material.
I would trust your instincts here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, I ve post questions before and always had the best advice. she is 21, im 34, we have an age gap of 13 years. however we have many things in common. she is very mature for her age and is not the party girl kind. we have been ld for a year now but we know each other for about 2 years.our friends introduced us. we are continents apart. im in america and she is in europe however we manage to see each other every two months. she just came back home after spending one month together. we have talk and the plan is to her to move after finishing school. its gonna take 2 years. we have talk about marriage two. my plan is to propose after 2 years and wait another year to get married. when she is 24 or 25. she is a good girl but now im seeing red flags everywhere.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 April 2013):
 HOw old is your GF to your 30-35? Have you always been LDR?
how far apart are you?
how often do you see each other?
what's the plan to end the distance?
all of these questions require answers before I can tell you to relax or advise you to make an exit plan.
If this is an age gap relationship as well as LDR and she's a young 20 something, yeah it might be the beginning of the end...
on the other hand, I have lots of friends i hang out with both male and female that do not spell the death knell of my relationship.
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