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*619
writes:Sup guys well this is the situation after 3 yrs out of the blue she says she needs space to hang with hr family more we have seen each other every day from 1 minute a day to the whole day, ive treated her like a angel and she knows that she got nothing bad to say about me ad she said she will always love me. Yet she wants space? I think and my gut is telling me that ether she cheated on me recently or met some one new or someone has caught her eye or vice versa, and rather then cheating and hurting me cuzz she says she respects me, the smart thing for her to do is ask for space to see if the grass is greener guilt free. She also has started telling me during the (I need a break speech) that after 3 yrs she is bothered that I already have a child (my son 11) and we can never have a first kid together! ((Okay um 3 yrs later? you tell me this?)) and that my money situation is not of her liking mean I have problems saving yes I do im working on it, but also its cuzz I pay for everything we pretty much do from eating out (lots) movies etc.. I under stand every woman wants a money secure man I ok with that... how ever (((hello love what kind of a man would I be if I had you pay for everything right?)). keep in mind all this was coming out during the (i need space speech) basically i notice alot of daggers getting thrown at me at once of all these lil flaws i guess i have. its like she trying to find an excuse to leave. and the love of my life i thought i knew would never do something like this... and to top it all off she dropped the bomb on me and said"i love you but im not in love with you like i used to be, there no more butterflies"Its been two weeks of some txting and stuff, she basically. She said wants time to think how important I really am to her, she wants to miss me.look guys when I say I loved this girl and treated her like an angel I mean it, not in the chump whooped way, but in the way you learn from the past mistakes, other mistakes in loosing there girls, I always heard how her gf were jealous cuzz there own bf don’t do the clever random love stuff I do. And the fact that I believe god blessed my life with her love, of coarse im going to treat a gift from above with royalty!!! I love her so much she says she wasn’t perfect I told her : your flaws you see in your self are cute to me cuzz they don’t bother me or do I notice them:. She was perfect in my eyes. What should I do now should I stop talking, txting her altogether so she can miss me (she said she cant be without me in her life) and risk her falling out in love with me completely and finding a new guy, cuzz remember if she needs space and told me before there no more butterflies how can I get a chance to bring life into her love if she needs space? Again guys any words you can spread my way would be appreciated. thanks
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reader, A619 +, writes (26 August 2010):
A619 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your honesty i hope everything works out for you and you man, i just hope my ex has enough respect for me as she say she does to admit to me that there is someone before i find out elsewhere, again thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): hey im very sorry to hear your having this problem. i can relate to it alot. im a girl and my boyfriend and i have also been together a little over 3 years. about a year or so ago i told him basically the same things about wanting space and all that, and he like you has been a good boyfriend despite a few rough patches. i had also lost the butterflies for him and just kinda felt like i loved him but wasnt in love with him. as terrible as it is for me to admit part of the reason i lost those feelings was due to another guy. he was an old friend and we talked very often and i began to have more feelings for the friend than my boyfriend. im not sure if its the same with your girl but that was my reason behind the space thing and like you said i wanted to see if the grass was greener and i will never forgive myself for hurting my boyfriend like that. anyways there is hope for you, we worked it all out and he tahnakfully forgave me. and i think your right about her pointing out your flaws as an excuse to leave, its all to familiar to me. you should ask her somehow if theres someone else, thats what is sounds like to me. even if the someone else is just a friend they can have a big impact on your relationship, but dont accuse her because that will upset her and push her away more... i hope it all works out for you, hopefully like me she will realize what she has and stay with you. goodluck
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