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Help! My friends and family are taking advantage of my skills. How do I say no and not offend anyone?

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Question - (7 November 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 9 November 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Afternoon all.

I recently qualified as a hairdresser a few months ago and since then i have been at everyones beck and call to do their hair.

For example my family just take advantage and say "i need my hair cut this week" and expect me to jump. I do have a full time job (in an office) which i have to contuionsly remind them that i get tired.

Another thing that pisses me off is when i cut their hair they will criticse and compare me to how their other hirdresser cut it! I have by the way told them to get it done by someone else if they dont like what i do!

Also my friends, every time we go out ask me to straighten or curl their hair-so i feel im always rushed to get myself ready so i can help them out! I do politley try to tell them i will do it aslong as i have time but it falls on deaf ears.

Obviously its great people want me to do it for them and its great practice but just for once i'd like to to be relied upon and not offend anyone.

HELP!

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A male reader, Anadin United Kingdom +, writes (9 November 2009):

Anadin agony auntyou invested time and effort in getting this qualifacation, do you charge them for your styiling and hair-cuts? also like the others said, start making appointments so that u can fit it in around your own time.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (7 November 2009):

I know how you feel. I'm a plumber, and you can imagine that I have the same problem. But stand your ground. Simply say either make an appointment, or that you are tired or busy. They'll get the point.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009):

Tough one. Im in a similar situation myself but being a beautician. Maybe 1 of your friends has a skill u can tak advantage of in return for doing her hair?

Honey Pie-she clearly states she works in an office not a salon.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (7 November 2009):

Honeypie agony auntTell them to get an appointment at the salon you work at and you can handle their hair.

IF you STOP cutting/styling their hair they will eventually stop asking.

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