A
female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:Afternoon all.I recently qualified as a hairdresser a few months ago and since then i have been at everyones beck and call to do their hair.For example my family just take advantage and say "i need my hair cut this week" and expect me to jump. I do have a full time job (in an office) which i have to contuionsly remind them that i get tired.Another thing that pisses me off is when i cut their hair they will criticse and compare me to how their other hirdresser cut it! I have by the way told them to get it done by someone else if they dont like what i do!Also my friends, every time we go out ask me to straighten or curl their hair-so i feel im always rushed to get myself ready so i can help them out! I do politley try to tell them i will do it aslong as i have time but it falls on deaf ears.Obviously its great people want me to do it for them and its great practice but just for once i'd like to to be relied upon and not offend anyone.HELP! Reply to this Question |
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reader, Anadin +, writes (9 November 2009):
 you invested time and effort in getting this qualifacation, do you charge them for your styiling and hair-cuts? also like the others said, start making appointments so that u can fit it in around your own time.
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (7 November 2009):
I know how you feel. I'm a plumber, and you can imagine that I have the same problem. But stand your ground. Simply say either make an appointment, or that you are tired or busy. They'll get the point.
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (7 November 2009):
 I agree with baby duck - well said.
There is a very good chance, after following her advice, that people are actually understanding and apologetic. People don't realise the strain it has put on you, and why should they? Until now they've been given no reason to think there was any.
Whether you're rushing or not, the fact that you are doing other poeple's hair demonstrates, to them, that you did have time. They're not aware of the pre-planning you put into it.
This is easily solved - follow baby duck's advice.
Good luck.
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female
reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (7 November 2009):
 Use "I" statements:
I don't know how to say this without being offensive, but I feel taken advantage of and can't do this anymore.
I am exhausted from doing this full time and I feel taken advantage of when friends and family expect me to do it, for free, in my time off.
I need to get myself ready.
People will still be offended but it's because they have not realized how selfish they have been, and they'll be embarrassed ... the natural reaction is to be defensive. That's alright. There will be some awkward moments. Unfortunately, you have to draw your line in the sand or the resentment will build until you explode.
best wishes ... create your peace
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): Tough one. Im in a similar situation myself but being a beautician. Maybe 1 of your friends has a skill u can tak advantage of in return for doing her hair?
Honey Pie-she clearly states she works in an office not a salon.
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female
reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (7 November 2009):
 Tell them to get an appointment at the salon you work at and you can handle their hair.
IF you STOP cutting/styling their hair they will eventually stop asking.
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