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writes: I know it doesn't matter now, but I just want to know if in fact I was the one who broke up with my ex fiance. The day I left his house (broke up with him) I asked him if he could start paying for his own toiletries b/c I couldn't afford paying for that and all the food. He was paying the mortgage, and i was going to help with that once I started my career (remember that he had lived in this house for 10 years before me and he makes a lot of money and I was only living there for 1 month). So, he yelled at me saying either to pay the bills or get out of his house. So, i took my stuff out of the shower and he was livid and said i had two hours to pack. So, i got my stuff and saw this as a way to get out of this abusive relationship and took my ring off. He asked why i took it off and said that i was making a big deal out of shampoo and that it was nothing to break up over. I saw it as I shouldn't be talked to or treated like that from him, so i left. six hours later i got messages from him saying we need to work it out and how he misses me and loves me and wants to be with me-and he bascially hadn't stopped with these phone calls and text messages until i recently changed my number. My question is, did i break up with him or did he break up with me? I know it sounds stupid that i have to ask that or that it even matters, it's just that he is such a liar and manipulator that i know he will tell the next girl that he kicked me out because i politely asked him not to use his shampoo and how i wasn't paying his outrageously expensive mortgage on his house. but, will he ever mention the fact he stalked and harassed me after i left begging for us to try to work it out and professing his love for me. I just want a clear answer and reassurance that i was the one who broke up with him-because i did leave him and went back home-so i broke up with him, right?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 If he wants you back , then you are the one who broke off and moved out.Sometimes , you need to teach them about how to treat you in a better way . This way is the most effective .He has taken you for granted and does not know how to appreciate you as a person..
I hope after you have cooled down , you may work out with him .These things happen because you are young , rash and sometimes irrational.
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reader, nailglitter18  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Well, if you want to know who is tougher, it looks like you are it.
If you feel like it's time to move on, and you didn't like the relationship's tone, then good for you.
But you're out now- there's realllllllyyy no point in trying to see who broke up first. That's the bottom line.
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