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writes:Whats going on in his head? At the start of this year my live in partner and i split up, this was because he was abusive to me and because he said id given him kids he didnt want. He is due to move into his new flat anytime now, he lives at his friends currently. He has just returned from a holiday, before he went away he was trying to get into my bed, i refused. Whilst he was away he began texting me saying how bad he feels for the things he said etc. He misses us. He has changed and that the last 2 months have been bad for him and now he realises whats important to him. I dismissed his claims as him being homesick etc. He came back bearing gifts. He says his flat will be ready soon, but he still says he hopes one day i will forgive him. Is this a case of him being scared to move on or is it some way of trying to keep hold of me even though he is gone. Why wont he let me move on, he seems to, to a certain extent and then out of the blue he will try putting me on a guilt trip and feel sorry for him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (11 March 2012):
 He "...wont he let me (you) move on" because he likes s*x with you.... and.... as long as YOU are dumb enough to let him get away with it, you will NEVER be rid of this sorry residue of mankind.....
Hope you figure this out soon..... Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): He is blackmailing you into having sex with him. He thinks that by saying things like he misses you etc you will believe him, feel sorry for him, hug him and then sleep with him.
If he really wanted to be with you he wouldn't have gotten himself a flat. Keep in contact with him for the sake of your children but no more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): Nothing to feel sorry for, he's had a great holiday, moves into his new flat any day and doesn't have a care in the world.
You on the other hand have responsibility for the kids a home etc and him trying to guilt you into hanging around.
If he IS sorry then you will soon know. If its down to you to forgive him and ask him back into your home, then you have to be 100% sure its going to be different.
I would leave the distance for now, talk only about the children and access arrangements.Don't let him try and sweet talk you, he's apologised which is a start, but you need a clear head to decide whats best for YOU.Just think back to why you split up in the first place.
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