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writes: Hi I'm only 12 and my boyfriend won't really act like a boyfriend and we've been dating for over a year. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2006): if your in love wit him and it's bothering u just sit him down and talk about it and see how he reacts. if he doesn't do anything about it and it's really startin to come between u guys then i guess it's not working cuz if he really has strong feelings about you he would at least try to do sumthin about it. am i right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2006): i think you need a good opinon from a girl closer to your age......like me! ok im 13 and i had the same problem!
my bf never treated me like a gf, or even a girl
if hes not treating you like a gf, it might be that hes not ready for one yet, or he doesnt like u as much as u think
but i must say, 12 is still pretty young for a guy to take a relationship seriously
most guys at 12 just think about sports, tv, and video games, and of corse girls..but they think of girls more as objects then gf's
but, like what i did with my bf, well i broke up with him, but 3 weeks later we relised we still liked each other alot, and he was willing to figure out how to act like a bf
so really jsut talk to him about it it will work out in the end, i mean i talked about it with my bf, and its never been better! and we keep getting closer and closer, but if u are looking for a more serious relationship and your not getting it from him, maybe try for another guy
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reader, camille  +, writes (4 June 2006):
 This scared me. When i was 11 I was happily playing games, seeing my friends,and wasn't at all interested in having a boyfriend. I'm not sure what you mean when you say "he doesn't act like a boyfriend", how does a 12 year old boyfriend act? I'll have to guess he's just being himself and at this young age isn't comfortable having a girlfriend? (Is it that he's not holding hands, kissing etc? He may be embarassed, not of you, just htat intimacy). If you've been 'dating' for over a year, again I can't understand what that entails. Do you mean hanging out, or going out on your own together. Is he difinitely your boyfriend, or just a really good friend. I'm sure you hate hearing this as it's important to you, but hang out with girls, have fun, be young, you shouldn't be dating at all at 11/12. There's plenty time for boys and if this one isn't acting how YOU want, perhaps neither of you are ready. You can't mould him and he shouldn't have to change for someone else. Just be his freind and take your time.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (4 June 2006):
 This guy sounds too immature to have a girlfriend right now. He's obviously not proud to say you're his girlfriend or anything, he just wants the best of both worlds, i.e. a girlfriend when it suits him and being able to go off with his mates when he wants to. If the person you love can't even show the people around him that he cares about you, he's really not that bothered is he? I know some people don't like to show their emotions but this is just offensive and disrespectful to you.
You're both very young, you don't need a boyfriend yet. Trust me, they don't grow up for a long time after us!! You just have fun with your friends and forget about him, they only cause you trouble! But you'll learn that later in life, I'm sure. Just enjoy being young while you can.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (4 June 2006):
 Most boys your age aren't all that interested in being "a boyfriend". Twelve, thirteen... boys at that age are still mostly kids, and are too young to know or care much about your feelings. They don't "act like a boyfriend" because they don't know how. Or care to learn.
You can't do anything, except accept that this is a time in your life when you're interested in boys, and they're not yet interested in girls. Don't try to push him into behaving a certain way, or you'll just push him out of your life. If you're not happy with what you've got with him, then make a pleasant break of it, and give each other some space to grow up.
I know it sounds tough, but hon, at 12 it's too early in your life to be dating and expecting boys to "play by the rules". Chances are, your Romeo would rather be riding his motocross bike, throwing rocks at a vacant building or building a fort than he is in holding hands and kissing.
Be patient. In a couple of years you'll be surprised how things have changed.
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