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writes:Hi tonight i found out my husband is seeing another woman. We have been married for 4 years and got married you I am now 29 and he is 28. We met each other a year before the marriage but fell deeply in love and got married behind our parents back. No one knows they just know we live together and my family loves him. His family doesn't love me so much. Anyway he was the kind of man that did anything for me treated me like a queen in all aspects my only problem w/him was he was a liar. He lied about the smallest things. Our marriage has never been easy its always been something whether it be friendships,finances, his family always something. I always gave little drama about frivolous things. Like tonight when i heard her in the background at his apartment (he moved out yesterday) we were arguing and she said are you ok baby...I went ballistic said i would kill myself if he didn't come and see me and explain. He first tried lying saying it was his cousin...he knew i knew it was a lie. He came over and we talked outside. He said I pushed him away she understands him,no drama,she communicates he pretty much said i am not worth shit to him. This is the man that loved me soooo much. We share a car so i have to see him cause he is pcking me up for work tomorrow mrng. I don't know what to do i feel so helpless can someone respond.. he was such a sweet guy i am shocked to know he is with someone else. He moved out saying we can probably work this out because he loves me. Tonight he says he doesn't love be anymore but he doesn't want a divorce.....he is with her now and refuses to take my calls i feel worthless i depended on him so much. i don't know what to do...
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reader, sexi suga  +, writes (13 April 2010):
hey sweetie im sorry about you dis-stress.. its never a pretty site when you see you husband/ ex move on as a matter of fact you never want you ex to move on even if you dont want him you'll never want anyone else to have him.. i have got to agree with caring guy in saying he was never ready for marriage however i dnt completely agree that he didnt love you... the thing is in life people change, people grow up and want different things from it and sometimes you just have to take it and let it ago... he has made it clear whether you believe it or not he said it very clearly that this isnt going to work... babe have some pride and tell him he's the only one missing out.. lifes too short to waste tears on someone that hasnt given a shed of thought on what your going through...someone once said if the pieces dont fit in the jigsaw no matter how hard you try to make them fit they will never fit...he has shown his true colour, if he regards your marriage as so worthless, he's worthless... if he really wanted your marriage to work he will be working at it to make it better but he's not, he's weak coz insted of facing his problems and issues with you, he's taken the easy option out of hooking up with someone else...sweetie take your pride back and show him the door... u aint interested in a man that doesnt give a shit about u... darling tell him too piss offf you deserve someone ten times better...ive just broken up with my cheating bf so im goin through the same break-up thing... find you pride and tell urself ur better then him :) smilllesss lifes too short :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 April 2010):
This guy was never ready for marriage, and never really in love. I'm sure that hurts you a lot, but it's important you understand the whole situation, because your next step is to walk away from him and never look back. No man who ever loves you will treat you this badly. Ever. Move on.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 April 2010):
 Take control of your own life from now . Do everything for yourself and be selfish .
Prepare yourself to leave this relationship. When everything is ready , leave him .
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