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Every relationship I've been in, every person I've ever dated, has always left me for someone else!

Q.   I feel like I've been finally worn down by constant romantic rejection and heartache. Every relationship I've been in, every person I've ever dated, has always left me for someone else. My ex with whom I was with for years, left me for someone e...

A.   3 April 2016: Its so sad to read something like this as I am sure you are truly a lovely person with so much more to offer then what you are settling for. In life there will always be someone "better looking, better socially, better sexually etc" but what is so ... (read in full...)

Serious HELP! How do I keep a player interested in me?!!!!

Q.   Met this guy who is very very wealthy, handsome and well connected yesterday. We swapped numbers and he has texted me asking me out. But he is saying stuff about how he wants me and wants me to go to his house etc. Obv he is a player and takes diff ...

A.   3 August 2013: I was in this position a couple of year ago and the guy ended up falling in love with me.. we last 2 years and then he got bored and played around... it may be different with your fella but as the reader said once a fox always a fox.. however i... (read in full...)

Confused, we were getting along so well, but he lost his job and now doesn't want to continue, and we haven't had our first date yet!

Q.   Hi everyone I have used this site previously however I haven't been online in a very long time. I am just looking for some advice on something that may seem small to others but it is a huge deal to me, so here goes. For the last 4 months I h...

A.   9 July 2013: Well it is the third day in where he has ignored me and my messages :( so I sent him a final message and said... " I know you miss me lots and lots as I am amazing lol however a wise person once said if a person doesn't message back take a hint, so ... (read in full...)

I've changed my mind about sex before marriage and want to have sex with my boyfriend, but we just don't have anywhere to go! What can I do?

Q.   Hi, im a 19 year old gal and have been dating my bf for 2years 11months i've never had sex before but we fool around a lot. Whn we met i told him i dont want to have sex until we married he agreed and took the sex idea out of his head. SO NOW im the ...

A.   8 September 2011: right ive also been in a very similar position myself... what i did was... well i always wanted to make my first time special and therefore went to the extent of going away for the weekend to a spa retreat... told my parents i went with friends to ... (read in full...)

He will never change! How do I get over him, though?

Q.   I have been in a relationship with my fiance for almost 4 years and i dumped him 2 days ago coz I was starting to change after our last break, he started doing the things that he knows I don't like. when I asked him a question he answered me with ...

A.   20 September 2010: hmm i have to disagree with tennisstar88. The reason is you dont have to tolerate anything, he should be that character you fell in love with coz that is the person you love/ loved... the person he has become over the recent months/ years is not the ... (read in full...)

Should I helped my depressed ex?

Q.   My ex gf has been in contact on and off in the past few months. after we broke up, we didn't communicate for around 6 months. Anyway, recently I believe she is suffering from depression or something similar. She told me online that she feels d...

A.   11 August 2010: erm the situation is fairly tricky here... to be honest i am sure she has alot of friend even if she hasnt im sure she has atleast a few very close friends that would help her get through this... i kinda think that it isnt your place to be too ... (read in full...)

Should I give up or keep fighting for her?

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend almost 3 years now and she been changing for the worst over the past 20 months. Where she used to be calm and self-assured, she is now insecure and self-loathing. She's become stand-offish and blames or lashed out at me ...

A.   1 July 2010: well have you have given her a reason to become insecure as from experience i have found that a person only becomes insecure if they are made to feel that like that. do u believe you give her the attension she wnts from you coz this also may be a ... (read in full...)

Does he only want me back because he's done with her?

Q.   My man and I had been going out over a year all of a sudden he started talking about this girl at work and how cool she was...next thing they are texting all the time etc...He went to a party with some friends from work and was gone for 4 days. I ...

A.   17 April 2010: darling im sooo sorry to read this... its really made me emotional to hear what your going through... all i can say sweetie is dont be second best... not for anyone...he is playing with your mind tryna lay the blame rather then take responsibilty ... (read in full...)

He used to treat me like a queen; now he lies and cheats

Q.   Hi tonight i found out my husband is seeing another woman. We have been married for 4 years and got married you I am now 29 and he is 28. We met each other a year before the marriage but fell deeply in love and got married behind our parents back. ...

A.   13 April 2010: hey sweetie im sorry about you dis-stress.. its never a pretty site when you see you husband/ ex move on as a matter of fact you never want you ex to move on even if you dont want him you'll never want anyone else to have him.. i have got to agree ... (read in full...)

Cheating GF wants to work on our relationship but won't give up her friendship with her affair partner.... What do I do?

Q.   Hey all. My girlfriend of 3.5 yrs cheated on me. We have a beautiful son together. I have forgiven her and done everything I can to try and work out our relationship. The one thing I have asked of her is for her to not have any form of ...

A.   10 November 2009: babe u have to be very careful with this situation, the reason why i say that coz i am in exactly the same position. basically if you tell her to chose i believe she will chose u no doubt as she is in the wrong, but what happened in my case was that ... (read in full...)

How can I trust a person without honesty?

Q.   My BF and have been together for 7 months. I think he may be cheating. He still talks to his ex and doesn't see a problem with it. Some of the messages and calls between them have been very suggestive, I can feel that his ex is still loves him ...

A.   23 September 2009: hmm sweeties, ok ok i dont condole the spying but i know if i was in the same situation i would do the same thing. i wouldnt trust this friendship as i dont belive you can stay bestfriends with an ex until t5he feeling that you had for one another ... (read in full...)

How can I ever get rid of these thoughts as they are driving me crazy and are stopping me fully enjoy loving my wife once again.

Q.   I found out my wife was having an affair from her emails, trouble is the numerous emails (i read them all) were so graphic about what they would be doing and what they did do together and how great it was that I was left totally devastated, hurt, ...

A.   23 September 2009: i have to agree... this process is one that is very long and with time may heal. But i can tell you one thing sweetie, these images will never leave your head, yehh they may fade over time and yehh they may eventually stop cropping up every day but ... (read in full...)

I want her back, but she has trust issues, is there any hope?

Q.   Hi I need some advice. Me and my now ex girlfriend broke up 4 months ago. It was a really nasty breakup with me admitting to not being exclusive until we had the talk...her manipulating me into letting her go through an old email account, ...

A.   18 August 2009: hmmmm this is similar to what ive been through, i think that your white lies had a big part to play in this break up, if you could have been truthful to her from the start maybe it wouldnt be as bad as you are describing now. the reason you she lost ... (read in full...)

Should I lose my virginity to a guy who I'm only going to spend another month and a half with?

Q.   I'm 18 and a virgin. My boyfriend of the same age is not a virgin. We started going out a month ago, and we were friends before that. I'm leaving in September for university, and we agreed at the beginning that we would not do long distance. We've ...

A.   17 July 2009: personally sweetie, sex to me isnt merely sex, its a physical and very intimate bond between two people who really love each other... though living in todays world it has lost alot of the values it used to have... if you are not planning to be wi... (read in full...)

Am I right to trust him again?

Q.   long story short, my boyfriend and i had been going out, my best friend was always very 'friendly' with him and caused a lot of problems, after we broke up they both snuck around behind my back and it didnt last long. she told me it was because she ...

A.   4 June 2009: have you guys ever tried going to these social gatherings together a few times... that worked me when my boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend... it was very very uncomfortable for me to deal with the idea that he was out with her around so ... (read in full...)

His ex-my pain

Q.   My boyfriend who loves me to death and wants to marry me left his girlfriend of 1 year to be with me. It was after I declared my feelings for him, said this is why I can't be your friend and walked away from the both of them so they could be happy ...

A.   19 May 2009: ive been in this situation and unfortunatly it was a good ending for me... he cheated on me with her and ofcourse it was enevitable in my situation as they had 5years of history togther... when we started off i didnt know he was with soemone ... (read in full...)

Should I ask my boyfriend to give me details of when he cheated?

Q.   Hey, I'd appreciate some advice from girls and especially guys out there about whether I should ask my bf about the time he cheated. We were together for 8 years, living together, and then I found out he was seeing a woman from work for some time, ...

A.   9 May 2009: i was in the same situation and i believe it worked for me... knowing exactly why how when what really made me understand the concept to why he cheated... it is a very very difficult thing to hear trust me and i did go completely crazy hearing about ... (read in full...)

Why does my husband get so angry when I ask him a question?

Q.   I don't understand when my husband gets mad sometimes when I ask him a question. We are both very busy and its like he takes offense for example if I ask him who the lady on the answering machine is or who the lady is that he made flight ...

A.   8 January 2009: Babe the reason he does this is because he feels you are doubting him and your relationship. By you questioning him he probably feels that he has to justifie all his action to you and to be honest men espically dont like doing that as they feel ... (read in full...)

He says I ruined his New Year and now I feel so guilty and don't know how to make it up.

Q.   I've been seeing this guy for 2 months and after a month of being together he asked me to spend New Year with him. The plan was to get ready together, go to his best friend's gathering (there were about 6 of his best friends there) then go to a ...

A.   1 January 2009: welll what i would do is try and re-create the night that you guys were suppose to have... recreate the whole count down to 12, play the fireworks on your ipod and just uno re-create the feeling of new years again... (read in full...)

In this relationship for 6 months, still texts his ex, it bugs me, how do I stop this?

Q.   hey guys... need some advice about the ex... i recently got together with a guy who got together with me after a long open relationship... after i got with i found out the reason we were in an open relationship... he was still with his ex... after ...

A.   14 December 2008: hye guys thanks for that... he decided to tell his ex hes got someone new thank god but it still feels very weird... she text him the next day sayin im not goin to connect u and i have to move on but stupidly after the txt he called he the next day ... (read in full...)

What's the point of being freinds when I still love him?

Q.   He dumps me but says he wants to maintain friends. I told him it would be too hard for me because I wouldn't know what to say to him because I have a lot of anger because of the break-up. As a friend, I tried to just let him know how work was and ...

A.   25 November 2008: to be honest sweetie... i dont think it is possible to be friends with a person that you still have feelings for... recently i was in a similar position and what i did was completly walk away as i found it to hard to contain my feelings... hows can ... (read in full...)

He has asked me for a BJ. I am afraid if I say no that he will think I don't like him anymore

Q.   i have never given a bowjob and i am scared that i will do t wrong and my boyfriens has asked me to give him and i am scared if i say no he think i dnt like him any more what do u thnk i should do ?...

A.   30 October 2008: do it only if you want to... dont do anything you are uncomfortable though tell him that youve never done it and tell him your worries and insecurites... but turn it into a joke.... thats what i did with mine i was like o ive never done it befor... (read in full...)

Love or just sex?

Q.   hiyah..well this is kind of embarresing but i need to ask sum1.:S well to start of with the first time i had sex was when i was 14 with this lad that i am currently having sex with now.i am now 15. i feel like i love him.. but the problem is...

A.   30 October 2008: sweetiiee give yourself some credit... you are better then a part time sex buddy... anyone can say i love you its not hard meaning it is the hard part... the ways you explain the situation seems to sugggest all you are is a person that he can ... (read in full...)

Why is he being grumpy and cuddling another girl?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months, but recently hes been really moody and grumpy im not sure whether this is related to his new job as he has to get up early for. I am also worried that he is going off me, as last weekend he had a ...

A.   30 October 2008: ok i think i would take a different approach to the one given by fade... you have to realise he is with you if he didnt want to be with you he wouldnt be but he is which clearly shows u that u are the one he wants to be with.... by hugging thi... (read in full...)

How can I accept my appearance?

Q.   hi their, this isnt a love or sexual question, its more about appearance.. im about 5'4 large built and a little overweight.. alot of people tell me how pretty i am, but all i see is ugly and fat, i got tormented at school when i was younger when...

A.   8 September 2008: hey there... babe honestly i was the same way.. when i was younger im talkin 14/ 15 i used to be almost a size 14 to 16... i used to hate myself and in the same way as you i got tormented at how big i was, i took it lightly and brushed it off until ... (read in full...)

Out of a relationship into another, right or wrong ?

Q.   isit ok to go straight out of a serious relationship into another, personally i feel that theres nothing wrong with it but you must make sure your ready to be into another serious relationship, but id like your opinion please give me your awnsers...

A.   12 August 2008: sometimes in life you have to put yourself and your feelings first as in the long run you may look back and regret it and that probably the worst feeling ever... if you are mentally and pysically strong to get into something new go for it lifes to ... (read in full...)

I am irritated with my girlfriend because of her flaws, what should I do?

Q.   I have a big problem. My girlfriend is lovely and everything but there are some things I don't like about her. I know this myght sound like bitching but most of the time she doesn't keep up her promise: she tries hard and everything but s...

A.   12 August 2008: god it seems like this is really on ur mind.. it comes across as a little harsh and in a way i feel sorry for your girlfriend... rather then focusing on the things that you hate about her why dont you try forcusing on the good things about her... ... (read in full...)

How do you keep your man sexually interested so he does not wander "too much"?

Q.   I want to know how do you keep your man sexually interested in you in the bedroom so he doesn't wander too much...

A.   12 August 2008: hey if there was one simple answer to that then i dont think there would be any cheaters in the world lol... but anyway on a serius note if a mans gnna cheat he will whether hes satified at home or not and espically at that age every guy is ... (read in full...)

I just want her to leave him alone and get on with her life and let him with his. How can I make this happen?

Q.   hello everybody. just wondering if you could help me with something. i recently got together with this guy after alot of grief. he basically wouldnt get together with me as he wasnt ready to let go of his ex yet. he was more than willing to get phyi...

A.   4 August 2008: first of all i dont make him show me his texts or even tell him to talk to his x in front of me... he does this for his own personal reasons... i have never told him that i feel like this about his ex nor have i ever told him to tell me what his ... (read in full...)

How do I get over this girl?

Q.   Dear cupid I have been in a very emotional first relationship with a woman on and off for a year. When i met her i was a bit distant and scared of gettin close to someone.I admit i was a bit of a bitch right at the start but she saw this as a ch...

A.   21 July 2008: well to be honest its hard to tell... esp when a person has a history of just uno uping and leaving without any jutsification... she diffi cares about you but whether she loves you or not is a different story... she may have a past of this but to be ... (read in full...)

How do I get over this girl?

Q.   Dear cupid I have been in a very emotional first relationship with a woman on and off for a year. When i met her i was a bit distant and scared of gettin close to someone.I admit i was a bit of a bitch right at the start but she saw this as a ch...

A.   18 July 2008: its ok sweetie been there and done that never allow urself to be second best you are better then that no matter what just remember that and smile :)... (read in full...)

He likes having sex with me but won't commit. What do I do?

Q.   i was wondering if i could get some help... i recently decided to break of a so called open releationship (though there was no sex involved just other stuff)as i didnt want to carry on playing second fiddle to his ex. he always said to me that ...

A.   18 July 2008: just to make it clear there was NEVER any sex involved so the question goes do i walk away from him as i cant control myself around him or do i stay in his life as a friend and keep trying not to give in??? i dont really wanna give him up and walk... (read in full...)

Why am I crying over spilled milk???

Q.   Why am I crying over spilled milk??? Its been several months since my ex broke up with me, and I'm finally reaching a point where I know what she did to me was wrong, and that if she asked to get back with me, i think i could stay strong and not g...

A.   18 July 2008: its pretty obv that getting over someone that has been such a big part of your life will be hard regardless of it being an ex or a best friend... the initial stage is bitterness and hatered for the way in which they treated you and then comes th... (read in full...)

How do I get over this girl?

Q.   Dear cupid I have been in a very emotional first relationship with a woman on and off for a year. When i met her i was a bit distant and scared of gettin close to someone.I admit i was a bit of a bitch right at the start but she saw this as a ch...

A.   17 July 2008: to be honest i think this girl is a girl that craves attension and will go where ever someone gives it to here.. but then when its gone she will go back to the one person who will diffinatly give her that attension... dont let her be apart of your ... (read in full...)

I'll do anything to get this guy to commit to me! Do you think I should play hard to get?

Q.   so this guy who i really like says he has feelings for me. i know he does because he shows how much he cares for me. well he said he isnt sure if he can give me what i deserve, which is committment. well we took one week away from each other. he ...

A.   8 July 2008: o god this is exactly the position i am in... what i realised (the hard way) that no matter what you do the guy will only chnage his mind if thats what he wants to do trust me no matter what you do or say wont change his mind... what i did was... (read in full...)

We still enjoy each other's company after 4 years but I am very bored, how can I save my relationship from routine??

Q.   how do u get the spark back in ur relationship? i realise that you cant constantly feel those butterflies, but its been almost 4 years now and i feel very bored with my relationship. i love my bf very much and i know he feels the same. the only ...

A.   3 July 2008: try and remember what made you guys have a laugh and try to re-create it... like with my partner we got the thrill back by going on holiday away from here and doing things that we done when we were younger, as in getting frisky in the swimming pool ... (read in full...)

After 6 months together we've entered the "comfortable stage". What can I do to bring back the wow look on his face??

Q.   ok guys... i have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. things r startin to get a little weird for me cuz its in the "comfortable" stage. so i want to do something to make him say omg again or just see that wow look on his face. and im not talkin ...

A.   3 July 2008: hmmmm well what i did to bring the wow back in is change my look slightly or hey even drastically so that he will notice... get a new hair cut or try so new make up styles that say wow or im bringing sexy back lol... go out for a nice meal, so... (read in full...)

I told him to make a decision about our relationship and he hasn't called back! What does this mean?

Q.   i am 23 yrs old i have a male friend that i grew up with since 7th grade we lost contact, and ran into each other this year. so we have been conversating i am single he say tha he single so we had sexual invovlement more than once and i spend the ...

A.   3 July 2008: wow i really admire you taking a bold step and cooling it off untill you get what you deserve and hey thats more then sex... its commitment and love. i am in a simialr position but cant v bring myself to say no as i stupidly believe that id rath... (read in full...)

He says he can't be in a relationship with me but he wants to still be intimate?

Q.   Recently i met this guy and began talking to him. we bacame very close in a short space of time. For the first couple of months we were talking every day over the phone for hours upon hours. We then met up a few times and it was great and he then ...

A.   2 July 2008: though what i still cant understand is why is he spending so much time with me, hanging around with me and staying on the phone with me till early hours of the morning surely that says hes interested right or am i just being naive...... (read in full...)

He gave me this look that stopped my heart. Now how can I get him back?

Q.   hello, i want to tell you all my story. i was with this guy for a while and we got pretty serious, we got as far as fingering. and he gave me this look that stopped my heart. i fell in love with him. he said he loved me. life was perfect. but then ...

A.   2 July 2008: to be honest sweetie if he doesnt want to be with you during school terms then when does he want to be with you. he doesnt want to commit or he doesnt want anyone to know that you guys are together. whats the point of that, if he cant show you of to ... (read in full...)

He says he can't be in a relationship with me but he wants to still be intimate?

Q.   Recently i met this guy and began talking to him. we bacame very close in a short space of time. For the first couple of months we were talking every day over the phone for hours upon hours. We then met up a few times and it was great and he then ...

A.   2 July 2008: hmmm i kinda agree with ask oldersister... somehow i kinda feel that he doesnt buy the whole virgin route and believes that he can get me hence him still waiting around.... (read in full...)

He says he can't be in a relationship with me but he wants to still be intimate?

Q.   Recently i met this guy and began talking to him. we bacame very close in a short space of time. For the first couple of months we were talking every day over the phone for hours upon hours. We then met up a few times and it was great and he then ...

A.   1 July 2008: A quick upddate: I spoke to him this morning and i told him exactly how i felt. he persisted that if he didnt care about me or even like me he wouldnt waste so much time hanging around with me or even talking to me on the phone. he said if it wa... (read in full...)

He says he can't be in a relationship with me but he wants to still be intimate?

Q.   Recently i met this guy and began talking to him. we bacame very close in a short space of time. For the first couple of months we were talking every day over the phone for hours upon hours. We then met up a few times and it was great and he then ...

A.   1 July 2008: A little update: i spoke to him this morning and he mentioned that he still has feelings for his ex but there is no way he would even consider getting back with her. I told him that he cant possible have the same feelings for me if that is the case. ... (read in full...)

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