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writes: I am divorced and 52yrs old, I have had few relationships. I have been on and off with a man who is widowed for a year, he is 65yrs old. I have struggled letting myself relax sexually, although he has been kind, considerate and generous throughout our relationship, in every way intercourse was often painful and I bled slightly. I have often finished the relationship in a panic, for no real reason, only to contact him later and we reunite. As he lives 200miles away and works odd shifts, and I have a very responsible job we see each other every few weeks for long weekends. He knows I am sensitive over my body, particularly my vagina, as I have had 5 children, but always done pelvic floor excercises. Over this weekend I finally relaxed,we had intercourse after fantastic foreplay, he could not orgasm, and then stated 'it is because you are too wet'. I am very embarrased and upset, and told him so, he could not understand my problem with his statement, he then said his wife also sometimes got like that, making me feel more appalled. Am I being too sensitive. I would be grateful for any responses.
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reader, shania  +, writes (19 April 2006):
 Sorry...but i dont buy it....what a stupid excuse to say that your too wet,no im afraid this problem is down to him.When a man gets to a certain age he doesn't get an erection so quickly as when he was in his youth...and when he does it can take a while for the man to ejaculate.In your boyfriends case,he could be suffering from Retarded Ejaculation,its quite a common condition and its where a man cannot climax...either because he is suffering from depression,stress with his job....tiredness etc,the list goes on.Now if your fella thought anything of you,then he should take a trip to the doctors and see if it is a medical condition.....because the fact that you were wet proves that everything is working in order on your part...i mean,would your fella prefered it if you were bone dry when he penetrated you? Have a quiet word with him and see what he says...if he refuses and still puts the blame on you,then really...do you want to stay with an insensitive man like that?
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