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writes:I have been dating this guy for about 2 and a half years. He recently broke up with me, saying he wanted time to himself, we were to young, etc etc. Although it has been about 3-4 months since this happened and yet he still tells me he loves me, he still treats me likes his girlfriend, sexually and non sexually.Bascially although were not "dating" nothing has changed. But he does not want a realtionship with me, or be labeled as "dating" me.All our friends are confused and so am i. He says he doesnt know when he will want a realtionship again and he does not know if we will go out again. I am very confused. I want to go out with him again because i love him very much, but its hard because he doesnt know what he wants. I just want advice on if hes just using me? what should i do? maybe hes hidding something from me? i just need advice cuz im going insane. I need help.thanks
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 April 2007):
 Having his cake and eating it too.
Don't let him have the benefit of sleeping with you if he's not considerate enough to be committed to you. Aren't you worth the committment? Yes, I think you are. He gets to have sex AND be single and that's just not fair.
I think he is using you... even if he doesn't mean to be cruel about it, he is being cruel. You love him and he's just dragging you along until he finds some new girl to mess around with.
Your emotions and your love-making are worth so much more than this. If he really loved you, he would have no trouble making a committment to you. Right, girl? You know you're awesome... go find someone who sees that and appreciates you for who you are!
xxIndia
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 April 2007):
 Cut off the sex completely and immediately. That's always a sure way to find out. Be friendly but absolutely no sex, not even kissing. I would also stay busy with your firends, go out and have some fun, meet new people. Staying busy and time are the solutions. Good luck.
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