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writes:Dear cupid, this I been talk to on okcupid he is very nice guy hes59 and I'm 47 we been talk over a month he ask me if move down here if I go out with him I say yes and now he's say he's to old for me but he still wants to move down here he ask me if their a place down here I told I think they were I told about a 1mile from me he say good that the place he was looking for.my question is dose he want to date or dose he thank he's to old for me first he want to date and next he says he to old for me I don't if he dose or not. Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 November 2016):
 I would be worrying about his mixed signals and the reason he feels he needs to move to be close to you. I think it is best to avoid this guy as something just doesn't add up.
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reader, malvern  + ♥, writes (29 November 2016):
 He does not want to date you, he just wants you be nearby so he can see you when he chooses. Take my advice and find somebody else who really wants to be with you because you are wasting your time with this man. You will only end up getting upset and feeling 'used'.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (28 November 2016):
 I agree with WiseOwlE
BE careful here.
And honestly, if he thinks he is too old for you? CUT him lose and wish him well and then block him. It's not your job to find a home for some random dude off the internet....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2016): Why would you want to chase a guy who is putting up road blocks????
Where is your dignity and self respect??
Listen to him!
When a man is interested, he will chase you. Convince you that he is the one. Not tell you flimsy excuses like he is too old for you and give you the run-around!!
My bf is 15 years older and it works with us!
But this guy is not interested enough in you. He might bang you if you let him but after he finishes with you, he will tell you the same thing. He's too old. And give you another run-around. The only difference will be you have just become another notch on his bedpost.
Up to you how you let others treat you.
Like gold or like garbage.
Do you know YOUR worth?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2016): Be careful and beware!!! He may be an online troll trying to get your address information on the sly. You can't be dumb or naive when you're dealing with strangers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2016): He doesn't want you as a girlfriend; he just wants you close-by just in-case he wants a lady-sidekick or to fool-around.
Why is it important for him to have a place near you? That's a weird, if not totally creepy, question. Sounds like it has to be for his own convenience. You can't just pull-up roots for some random guy you met on a dating site. You don't mention that you've ever met him in-person.
Don't you dare move for some old coot that asks you to displace yourself on a whim. You'd have to be out of your mind to consider something as irresponsible and impractical as that.
If he says he's too old for you, why can't you accept that?
Are you going to force yourself on him anyway?
Here's some sound advice. If a man gives you any reason, I repeat... any reason he can't or doesn't want to be with you. Accept him on his word. No more questions.
Maybe the guy just wants a female-companion and someone to hangout with in his own age-group. Let him find someone local. Better for you to do the same.
If he doesn't say in his profile that he is looking for a long-term commitment, or a younger girlfriend, that means he isn't. Your unusual grammar and erratic sentence-structure indicates English is probably your second language, or you speak a foreign-dialect. You may not fully understand what the man is telling you.
He's just looking for something casual and non-committed dating. He wants to date you for fun, but prefers an older woman. Stay put!
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