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*andyspice
writes:I own a small shop in a town where i live and most customers comes in not realising i own it.. except old customers, if any new one asks i usually say i work here. Anyway this guy has been asking me to come out for a walk with him in a long time that eventually i agreed. He drove down and i joined him in his car.., it was decent, he was cool and chatty and we enjoyed that time toghter. i made it clear to him on that day that am not available emotionally.he asks me again and again we went. this time he bought me a cd that i liked and i thought that was very thoughtful.we ask and i felt the way i never felt in a long time(i am separated with four children) it was electric!. but out of curiosity i asked him his age. he said 25 and i am 38. that made me uncormfortable. he said he don't mind, i dsaid i mind. Anyway he asked if i have children as i noticed baby talks in the background when he called on the phone i said yes.., he said hw many? 2? i said yes. he said how old are you i said quess. he said 24( i look way younger than my age and a size 8) i said 32. All these because i have no intention of staying in a relationship of any kind with him.two and half months on we are still seeing each other. I have developed this strong feelings for him.we have not had sex yet but we do everything else and that is satisfying. My problem is that i think he has a girlfrien as i have never been to his house, i do not know where he works, where he lives and his never available on weekends. we have never been anywhere together. he wants to be coming to me. he has offered a lot of explanations for all these but am still not satisfied. We are ready for sex but he wants to book a hotel room; it is nice but i wanted him to say do you want to come to my place even though i live with 2 others or should we go to a nice hotel? (he said he is shy because i am black and he is white) even though he is crazy about me! i found that offensive and has refused to speak to him for 2 days now!I miss him so much!should i leave things the way they are as there is no future in this thing?
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reader, candyspice +, writes (14 October 2010):
candyspice is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well am still seeing him! it is nearly four months now and he wants sex but no pressure at all. i want to have sex with him but am afraid of falling in love with him.., but i see no future in the realtionship. i tried to break it off but he cried and begged and told me he will always be there... yet he is not showing any sign of seriousness.
i know the age difference is a factor but i want to move on without looking desperate for attention.
Pls help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): if this man is serious about you and also has strong feelings for you it shouldnt matter what the colour of your skin is, i mean i would be offened if a bloke said that to me. youve been together two months and you dont really know the basic things about him like you said you didnt know where he works or lives, try talking with him and be honest dont think about hurting his feelings, he didnt think of you feelings when he commented on your skin. hope this helps xx
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