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*adybug23
writes:What should I do. I have been married for 14 Years. We dated two years before we got married.Well last year my husband started acting weird. It all started when we switched cell phone companies. He started playing games on his phone. Then he decides he wants text mess on our phones.He would never want it before and also wanted a camera and video phone.He always said it was stupid and then all of a sudden he wanted it.One day we had a blow up about our kids and after that he quit wanting to do as much with us.He was acting very funny with the phone.I got suspicious one night and found some girls phone numbers in his pants pockets.He told me he had no clue how they got there.Well I didn't beleive that. He takes off one weekend and tells me he needs time to think.Well he said he wasnt going to meet anyone he just wanted to figure out how to fix our problems.Well when the cell phone bill came in there where numbers that I never seen before.They just so happen to be in the same location he spent the weekend. He told me he talk to some but he didnt meet with any. After about a month I then found out I was pregnant,caring a third child.So of course he acted better for a little while. He never lets me hold his cell phone.Well I use it probably a total of three times and he watch me and had his hand out wanting it right back,After our baby was born in Dec.He had took pics of the baby with his phone .Well I ask him if I could see the pics and he told me his battery was low which is his excuse always.He send them to my phone.Well what was the difference looking on his or him sending them to my phone.If is battery was low .He sleeps with his phone and makes sure I cant go through his jeans anymore.He has went over his text mess by over a 130 but uses a lot mms. He doesnt ever text me or call me from work .He used to call me every break and every chance he would get.He always tell me I over react when I ask him about it.We have threaten to split up but we want to work it out.I cant stand him wanting to watch porn and always talking to other women.He says he's playing a game but always shuts his phone when i walk in a room. Sometimes when he's not saying he's playing a game he says its friends from work.Well my husband has never like talking on the phone except to talk to me.I have always had to call people for him. He started wanting to dress up for work and even bought new clothes to wear to work.Theres more things I havent mention.He says he hasnt cheated on me or met with anyone. He said he just needs someone to talk to.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): I would have to say that I think that he is cheating. He is showing all the signs of a cheater. The secrets, the phone and numbers, interest in looking better and being clean. Hire a private invest or if you cant afford to then use reverse phyc on him. Find out the name of one of the girls numbers on his phone by calling the company and saying that this number keeps comming up but you don't know who it is and can they give you a first name. If you can get it tell him that she called and told you everything and if he does not fess up you will leave or text him and say you are her using a friends phone and see what he says to u.
Hope you get the answers you are looking for.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 I think usually your instinct is always right...
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (18 April 2008):
 In my opinion I think your hubby is playing away. He is certainly showing all classic examples ie getting a video/camera mobile (cell) phone and not letting it out of his sight etc etc.
Give him an ultimatum if he contiues to take the p*ss and not tell you anything then tell him you will show him the door.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 April 2008):
Tell him to move out.
If he is innocent then he will do anything you say to get back with you. If he is guilty then he will go and not come back, and good riddance.
Do you think it is good for your kids to watch their parents act this way to each other? They will learn that it's normal for a girl to just take abuse and put up with it.
Do what is best for you and the kids.
Good Luck!! xx
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