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writes:im in love with this guy. ive liked him for 8 months. but we were all over each other at this party and he told me he liked me no he told me he loved me, but then the next day he said he wasnt sure. he said he was going through some sh*t and didnt wanna take it out on me, but then i said i could help you through it. i really really like him. but i dont wanna let him go. i dont know what to do. my friends tell me i need to fight and let him know he means the world to me, but how? i dont want to push him so far that i loose him Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): Whatever it is that he's going through has nothing to do with you, so you should lay back and be his friend and allow him to deal with his issue. he will tell you on his own time. if he really likes you, he'll stick around.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (20 April 2010):
I agree with CindyCares. If you create a little distance, he will feel that distance, and will be more likely to want to resolve whatever problems he is having, and then get close to you. You don't have to be totally off with him, just try and arrange to do some things with your friends, so you are out enjoying yourself and not stuck at home thinking about him. I think if you push the issue, by trying to fight for him, it might work in the very short term, but he won't feel as if he had to "win" you over. People are attracted to things they have to invest in, so if you make it too easy for him, he won't have that investment and there won't be that attraction. So play it cool, make the most of your time with your friends and doing things for yourself.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 he might be sincere about going through a tough time , and he might not ( that's a very classic excuse of males wanting to distance themselves ). When in doubt- do not cling. Do not chase, do not pursue. If he really likes you, he will be back once he has sorted out his problems.
Clinging generally only creates more resistence and more avoidance, of course if you are very persistent , and he's weak willed, you may temporarily "win " the guy, but pretty soon he will resent you for that.
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reader, i cant stop  +, writes (20 April 2010):
maybe dont be so stronge about it for a bit
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