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*ellywindy1
writes:I have been dating a guy for 8 months previously we had been best friends for a few years. We have been having a difficult month due to moving home and him being made redundant. Then one day out of the blue he text me to say he wasnt happy, we agreed later that night that we would have 2 weeks apart with no contact and see how we felt. He was upset and crying but kept saying he wasnt good enough and he couldnt be who i wanted him to be. During that 2 weeks he text a few times and i responded two days before we were due to meet up he text to ask how i felt, i responded with i think it might be done at which point he text he wanted to give it another go.I said i thought it was done because i thought that was how he felt i want him more than anything, since that text things have gone down hill he refuses to meet me or talk to me he literally wants nothing to do with me i am confused how he can say he loves me and is missing me to wanting nothing to do with me hes even blocked my number from his phone? Do you think he'll come round?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Has he recently lost his job, is that why your guys are moving back home? That would explain him crying and claiming he's not good enough for you or be the man you want him to be. Or and just a thought, it's possible he may have cheated on you.
Next you guys are supposed to cut off contact for 2 weeks, his idea, but he caves and texts you and wants to give it a go but you don't. Then you reconsider, but he's upsets and completely shuts you out..He doesn't want to talk to you now or anytime soon. Maybe he'll come around in 2-3 weeks, but of course he's the one who has to initiate contact. This is the delayed break you guys should have had in the first place. Honestly, I wouldn't hold your breath, give it 2-3 weeks like I said, and you still got nothing then take it as it's really over.
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reader, kalykush +, writes (25 October 2010):
 well honey, he may be bipolar. this is what my bf or my ex bf does to me basically every week. our situation is a bit more complicated, however my advice is to just stop contacting him all together, he seems confused. and is in turn only confusing you more. let him be. dont put a time limit on being apart. let him come to you (if he decides too) on his own. meanwhile focus on yourself, not his feelings, go out with your friends. live your life. in the end if it doesnt pan out, you will regret focusing all your time and energy on him while he was confused and confusing you. they say while you wait on someone to love you , youre probably passing up a great chance at love that has been looking for you. hope it helps :)
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