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writes:I started to give my bf a blowjob and he stopped me before i'd barely touched him. Later i confronted him on it and he said that he had too much respect for me to have me do it. I told him i was genuinly willing to do it for him and that i wouldn't have offered do it unless i was confortable with it, just as long as i stopped before he came. he said that there'd be times he wouldn't be able to warn me and then he put an end to the conversation and ignored me when i said i'd love to get better at it if he'd guide me...in case that that was the problem.i also said i'd never look for the return favour.i feel really insulted that he won't let me do this for him? is the 'respect' thing just a cover up? is it possible that he doesn't like it? and since we've had sex before i initiated this do you think he just feels like i'm doing it for the sake of it, even though i'm not? what should i do?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 Some guys have this sexual inhibitions or hangups about their g/f doing it.
That is the way they were brought up or they had formed that opinion that nice girls don't do orals.
I don't think there is something wrong with him . It is just his personality. You should not feel insulted .
If your partner does not like it , just respect him.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 I agree with oldersister, doublem and collaroy on this; be very doubtful of the future of your relationship with this man. Sex should be a wonderful exploration of each other's bodies and responses--instead you're getting a morality lecture. It won't get better, I think. What an idiot, I'm thinking, but then some men can only deal with women if they put them into 2 stereotypes: wife material (which is a girl who might like sex but will never get the chance to find out because she should be too "pure" to think about getting down and dirty and doing all those impure things) or whore (which is a girl who likes sex in all its lovely variations but because she does he can never take her home to meet my mother who falls into category a).
Run away.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 Hi,
I would tread very carefully with this man. A real male pig I once worked with said all girls who gave oral were whores and while he loved it he would never get a serious girlfriend to do it. He was such a controlling arsehole this guy, I worry that your guy has the same values, he sees it as dirty and that you are somehow tainted if you suck him.
Beware, danger .
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 March 2008):
 Some people on both sides of the gender pool have hang-ups about oral sex, such as it being dirty or nasty in some way, and for some it may be a religious taboo. Of course, if both partners are healthy, clean and disease-free, it is medically harmless and even healthy, especially for the female who may receive her greatest pleasure from oral stimulation of her vulva and clitoris. Your guy evidently thinks it dirty, and may indeed be showing respect. But I must agree with "Ask oldersister" that this fellow sounds as if he may have other hang ups about sexuality as well.
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