He makes me feel like I'm his mother or his household help!

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm having a hard time with my husbandhe's 25. He's failed at so many things in his life. I've been with him for 2years but known him for 4years. Ever since after his A levels. He flunked and i was there for him. I tried applying for him at colleges have got him jobs with my friends. When he went to college he flunked again because he was working as a dj 5 nights a week 7pm to 4am he had to be in school at 8am so he missed a lot of classes. His results were ready january 2010 he didn't collect his. In may then i went to the school and collected his results. He'd passed 4 of 11 didn't write 3 exams. I sat him down to talk about the best way forward he insisted he wanted to repeat the same course. This year they accepted him again at the college he's not going to class as well as he should he's always behind in his work. I'm trying to help him i suggested he draw up a time table of how he spends his personal time that way i don't get in the way of his study time. He's no longer helping around the house because he says he's resting in preparation for study yet he can spend the weekend without doing anything. We have a huge house and no maid. We have a baby who is 19 months and i take care of her full time. Since he's still in college i keep chickens in our back yard and grow vegetables i sell these things to get money for our up keep. In è last 6 months i've ballooned from a size 8 to a size 16 i'm so over weight it's frustrating i get that incontinence my body feels heavy. When i'm done with all the work i don't have the energy to exercise. He doesn't even motivate me to excesaise. I feel like i'm wasting my time with him because i can afford to take care of my daughter and myself. In a man i want someone who thinks about my baby and i someone who is romantic and sweet. He makes me feel like i'm his mother or house help. Is it crazy of me to think of leaving him because i want a man who'll treat me like a woman. Please don't tell me to talk about it because believe me in two years we've talked. I just need a course of action different from one i've been taking

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