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writes:I stopped at my boyfriends this weekend and he got drunk one night, I was lying on the sofa and he turned to me and said "wheres this come from?" and pointed at my stomach he then said "you've got a right little stomach on you" meaning he thinks ive put on weight.. Now I wouldnt have been too upset about this except I beat anorexia in the past and I am still slim now but whenever I put on a tiny bit of weight its noticeable because of how slim I am. Also later on whilst 'play' fighting he bent my right wrist back which I have problems with and he knows that wrist causes me alot of pain yet he still did it! He wouldnt let go when I asked him to so I said "Go on break it I dont care break my wrist if it'll make you happy" then he let go and laughed. So I was sat there angry with him and he kept telling me to cheer up and called me moody etc so I went to bed. He slept on the sofa and came to bed around 9pm wanting sex! When we both got up finally later that morning him now being sober he realised he had upset me and as I left his he said "I love you, I'm sorry for upsetting you last night"What the heck is going on?!!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (9 November 2010):
 Drunk or not he behavior was absolutely uncalled for. If I were in your shoes this relationship would be over, he is not supportive (WTG on beating Anorexia, "it's" quite a bitch to beat!) and he is downright cruel. Next time and I have no doubt that there WILL be a next time if you let it, he MAY take you up on the breaking of your wrist. Oh and he will be so full of apologies and I'm so sorry the next day... til next time.....
What is there to love?
I think you deserves SO much better.
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reader, redlight +, writes (8 November 2010):
Keep an eye on it. Ok that was his first episode, he was drunk and not acting normal. Give him a break on that but fi you EVER see anything like that again, run away fast! It can only get worse.
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reader, Manya +, writes (8 November 2010):
I think that drunkenness is no excuse for his being so mean to you - physically bending your wrist when he knows it will
especially hurt you, and teasing you about your stomach when you have battled anorexia in the past, and still are slim. I think you are much too good for him! if I were you, I would start looking around at other men, and think about breaking up with him.
He could start getting even meaner, and then what would you do?
You are right to pick up on this poor behavior! Please make yourself number 1 and look out for yourself by reconsidering this relationship!
Best of luck, and Congratulations for beating anorexia!!
Go Girl!!
Love,
Manya
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 November 2010):
 What did he say when you asked him "what the heck is going on"? It's a reasonable question to ask.
You have some past and current issues with anorexia and a hurt wrist, and he drunkenly yet somehow deliberately presses on both of those. While drunk. Hm.
Gosh, there's a HUGE red flag. Maybe you should consider it like a warning card in a football match. You've just handed him one. How many chances does he get? You have to decide.
Talk to him about this. See if alcohol is the issue, hidden anger, buried resentment. Is he just a jerk while drunk? Hm. YOU have to empower yourself and decide what you will and won't tolerate. Then enforce it. Be strong and be smart. Take care of yourself. Good luck.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (8 November 2010):
 To me it sounds like he was being a drunk idiot for a night... I don't know how long you have been dating but assuming this hasn't happened before but I wouldn't call it abuse, just drunken stupidity and rudeness. Mean of course and hurtful but from the title I thought I would be reading about how he constantly talks about you and tries to break you down. This just sounds like it was a mistake. From what I am reading anyway. Get a sincere apology and maybe let him know he is unpleasant when drunk.
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reader, RennieGeek +, writes (8 November 2010):
His drinking is out of control, and his behavior will only get worse. Please use caution around this man.
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