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serenityjohnson
writes:My ex and i were together for almost 2 years and we had an active sex life...now we have broken up and he has a new girlfriend and i have a new boyfriend...he tells me that he cares for and is in love with his girlfriend...but he calls and texts me for sex often..so i am confused...isn't it that if he really loved and was in love with her..that this wouldn't cross his mind..she seems like a nice girl and everything..i asked him if he still had feelings for me and he said yes..but i am in love with someone else...does he really care for both of (his girl and me) or just wants me for sex????
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): If your ex is with someone else and texting you for sex, you could go back to him and then he could text someone else for sex. How would you feel about that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): To be honest he just wants sex. If he cared for you or for his new girlfriend for that matter he wouldn't call you for sex only and cheat on her. You need to make that decision and put a stop to it before you ending up getting hurt. Or even hurting two innocent people, your boyfriend and his girlfriend. They don't deserve it. And just ask yourself this question, would you like it if someone did that to you? Good luck, and remember respect yourself.
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (2 January 2008):
 Sex bathes the female brain in a chemical called oxytocin ... it makes us all emotional. In fact, all that talking and sharing we do does the same thing.
Oxytocin in the male brain stresses them out ... their brains like testosterone. Sex is not an emotional thing for them. Neither is talking and sharing their feelings, thoughts and ideas. I'm not saying that a man never has emotions for a woman he sleeps with; just that it's a different process so don't assume your ex talking sex with you is an attempt for an emotional connection. Some guys do share their thoughts, ideas and feelings ... I'm not saying that none do ... just that it does not create the same responses in their brains as it does in ours, so don't think that it means the same thing to them, as it does to us.
So, do not confuse your ex boyfriend's reaching out to you for sex as wanting some kind of emotional connection with you.
Also, since you cannot know for sure what your ex boyfriend wants, don't waste your time thinking about it. What do you want? Figure that out and make your choices based on that.
Best wishes.
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