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How should I feel about my boyfriend looking at photos of naked women?

Q.   How should I feel about my boyfriend looking at photos of naked women? At the moment, I feel like a) I'm not good enough for him and b) upset that he'd even want to look at these I need advice, please....

A.   26 June 2008: First ask him about it, see what his reaction is. It's a totally normal thing for guys to do regardless of how you feel about it, most men do it. I understand that it makes you feel like something is lacking but that's not the case. I can't ... (read in full...)

Can't forget my Ex-girlfriend

Q.   I've been into a relationship and it was 5yrs ago and until now i'm still being hunted by my past. I was dumped by my ex-girlfriend for another guy which didn't even last for a year. we're together for almost 5years and i did nothing but to love ...

A.   26 February 2008: Kay Kay, What are you talking about? Did you read this man's story. Where did he do any of the breaking up? I completely understand where he's coming from and don't think he did anything wrong. I'm fearful that i'm going to be in the same sit... (read in full...)

Is there anything I can do about my fetish?

Q.   Reposted as I think accidently clicked 'unsubscribe from answers to this question'... Hi, I am a 24 year old male from England. I am quite a good looking lad and don't really have any problem getting the girls, the only problem is I am confused as...

A.   21 February 2008: YOU'RE A FREAK MAN!!!! lol. No, J/K. I actually have a couple of serious things to tell you. First off, what you do behind closed doors is your business. No one can tell you how you should feel except yourself. As long as you're being healthy ... (read in full...)

I kissed him, now she's threatening me, what do I do?

Q.   I kissed this guy i know from school but had never spoken to before last thursday and saturday when out at a club. On thursday we kissed once in the club and then all the way home in the taxi (he lives near me and there were others in the car too). ...

A.   21 February 2008: Look, i've been in many fights and in reading this i think there are 2 things you have to do. 1. is this guy really worth all the trouble? and 2.Is he telling the truth? If the answer to BOTH of these questions is yes, than stand up to her. Now... (read in full...)

Still living with the love of my life but she doesn't want me. Don't know what to do because for the past 7 yrs I've told her of every problem and she's been my best friend, always willing to talk.

Q.   Hello all, I originally came on this site to find advice for me and my own Girlfriend as we were having some problems. Some of you may have seen some of the advice that I've left so now, I'm asking for all of your help. My wonderful girlfr...

A.   21 February 2008: Jabey, I never thought of it like that. I'll see what I can do. My friends all have lives of their own right now and have always been hard to connect with and arrange outings, but maybe i should just try harder to do that. I hope she comes ba... (read in full...)

Still living with the love of my life but she doesn't want me. Don't know what to do because for the past 7 yrs I've told her of every problem and she's been my best friend, always willing to talk.

Q.   Hello all, I originally came on this site to find advice for me and my own Girlfriend as we were having some problems. Some of you may have seen some of the advice that I've left so now, I'm asking for all of your help. My wonderful girlfr...

A.   21 February 2008: Baby Duck, Thanks for your quick reply. I understand exactly what you're saying, while I hope and pray for the best, I prepare for the worst and am trying to make arrangements. I know we can no longer live together, but financially neither ... (read in full...)

Do guys have a "G-spot" as well?

Q.   Do guys have a "g-spot" too?...

A.   21 February 2008: yea, the spot between our legs. Anywhere around there works.... (read in full...)

How long should I wait before calling her?

Q.   Before I say what happened I would like to say I am a genuine person and not a player! rite.. I was out last nite and I gathered the courage to ask for this girls number. I know her friend and had a bit of a dance with her. I asked if she had...

A.   14 February 2008: I always abide by the 3 day rule (granted i haven't had to in close to 7 years.) but you have to play it right. Alot of women, as evidenced here, feel that it's a game. You have to be genuine with your intentions be honest and upfront with her. ... (read in full...)

Having a relationship with my stepmother's brother, should I put an end to it?

Q.   hi! im in a very confused situation. i've been having sexual relationship with my stepmom's brother. i used to like him when i was 14, now i'm 19 and he is 24, we live in the same house. i thought it was just a crush, but i think it's more then ...

A.   14 February 2008: I know this sounds disgusting, but in thinking about it, i don't see anything wrong with the relationship. Yea, your step mom is his sister and all, but you're not blood related so it's not incest. If you want it to stop, then stop it, but do so ... (read in full...)

If I'm not bulimica then what I'm I?

Q.   So for the past 2 years or so I have noticed that my ways of eating have changed. Everytime I eat about 5 mins. later i throw it up. I dont make myself do it or anything, it just happens. Ive told my mom about this before, but she says im fine, and ...

A.   6 February 2008: Go to the doctor; that's the simplest and most direct answer. And probably the right one to boot.... (read in full...)

Been snooping through my bf's cellphone and questioning his ex, he found out but never accused me of intrusiveness. I don't know what to think?

Q.   hi, i started checking my partners cellphone and read a few messages from his ex nothing too detailed so I never bothered too much,then more textes were coming and they met a few times , when I asked him he made up excuses but never seemed to bother ...

A.   5 February 2008: dude did nothing wrong, but if he's not goign to get mad at you for going through his stuff then i will. What the hell are you doing? If you don't trust him than tell him but don't go through his stuff.... (read in full...)

She will not stop being friends with a male friend I dislike... is her love not as much as mine is for her?

Q.   why is my gf acting this way. we've been dating for a year now...silly things wants her to stop the relationship. i love her to death and she's the only girl i want cannot imagine my life without her. it happened like 5 times she want to put an ...

A.   5 February 2008: Once again, I have to disagree with Laura. (sorry Laura) What your GF is doing is wrong, plain and simple. While you are not her boss and can't control her, she is supposed to respect your relationship. The length of time of a "friendship" means ... (read in full...)

My husband cannot see how serious his pot-smoking problem really is. Please help.

Q.   I have been married for over 20 years. My husband has always smoked pot. I always thought this was just a phase, and that he would grow up and quit. We have grown children, and it was a big issue when they were young. I almost left him then, but ...

A.   1 February 2008: As an avid pot smoker I have to put my 2 cents in. First off, your husband is not in any way shape or form a "Junkie". Smoking pot is alot different than doing stronger narcotics. It's much more comparable to being addicted to cigarettes. I have ... (read in full...)

I am still not comfortable with anyone touching me or any sexual contact after a teacher's harassement! What to do to get past this?

Q.   Hi, i'm 13 and when i was 12 there were about 6 or 7 boys who liked me and kept asking if i'd wanted to go out with or sometimes they asked if i would be their girlfriend but everytime i refused cause i wasn't ready for that kind of thing, at times ...

A.   31 January 2008: Not to sound insensitive to your question, but I think the greater issue here is not your nightmares and such, but what happened to this teacher. Don't get me wrong, you're seeking professional help and getting better but it sounds like a problem ... (read in full...)

I'm undecided - should I give in to my brother's urges and have sex with him?

Q.   My brother trying to seduce me. He's been trying for a long time, from time to time he was making a move on me, but now I think he's serious. When we were in early teens (13-15) we already had a kind of sexual relationship with him - we've been tou...

A.   31 January 2008: I hope to God this is not real, that's F*#&*$G nasty.... (read in full...)

Is it possible to be TOO nice to women?

Q.   How do I avoid being nice towards women? I've had relationships but they always end in me getting dumped. My best friend says its because im too nice. what does he mean?...

A.   30 January 2008: "A bad woman is never worth your tears, while a good woman will never make you cry."... (read in full...)

Should I break a promise I made after a break up?

Q.   I recently broke up with my girlfriend of four years for a number of reasons. Over the past few weeks we have been unravelling our relationship, while she prepares to leave the country for up to 2 years in a month or two. I own the car, but she used...

A.   30 January 2008: I must be missing something, let me get this straight. YOU own the car that SHE to use while the two of you were TOGETHER. Now you're NOT together and SHE still wants to utilize something that belongs to YOU? Sounds to me like that answer is right ... (read in full...)

My ex wanted me back but wont give up her new guy. I feel like I'm being manipulated, what should I do?

Q.   My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. It was mostly because I wasn't attentive enough. She started seeing someone else. I stayed away from her. I didn't call her at all. She called me after a month and told me she missed me. She told me she thinks ...

A.   30 January 2008: i agree w/ everyone else, tell her it's not fair and you won't continue w/ things the way they are unless she can give you some re-assurance that she's committed to making it work with you.... (read in full...)

Should I give blow jobs at parties because all my friends do it?

Q.   i am 16 and go to quite a lot of parties with people my age (house parties) whenever i go all my friends go and give head (blow jobs) and seem to think nothing of it. and some of then often have the favour returned. i am th eonly one who doesn't ...

A.   30 January 2008: I think your friends are all sluts and you shouldn't be hanging out with them. Be yourself, don't let anyone tell you you're "different" because you don't want to lower yourself to their standards. 'Nuff said... (read in full...)

Do I chose my family or the love of my life?

Q.   i am a hindu girl.i am in love with a christian boy.my family is against this affair.they want me to marry a hindu .but i cant.we love each other so much.he is very sincere and loving.but then i dont want to hurt my parents.what will i do.i want my ...

A.   30 January 2008: There is a famous saying that says "religion is the opiate of the masses". I've come across this problem in the past too and i must say, I hate it when religion comes in the way. To me it's just ridiculous. Alot of people follow religions to a T ... (read in full...)

I broke up with her but I don't want it to end! What should I do?

Q.   Hi all! I feel totally down right now. I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday over the telephone. It was like this. We had difficult times and were just starting to get to the right track again. Yesterday we talked about our problems and we ...

A.   30 January 2008: DO NOT follow Laura's advice below me. You shouldn't tell her you love her unless you mean it and you're sure you mean it. At the same time, you may just have to chalk this one up to the game and move on. I would suggest having a conversation ... (read in full...)

I do stupid things, don't want to loose him

Q.   So me an my boyfirend been togather for 4 monthes now we moved in togather like rigth away an it was ture love at first sigth every one said i was crazy my firends was like you don't even know this guy an i'm always the one to think things out but ...

A.   28 January 2008: I think the problem is on both parts. Yes, you may be being a bit too clingy but that's something you need to work on yourself. The bigger problem in my eyes is his comparing you to his ex. There are certain things you should NEVER do in a rela... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wears skirts, help!

Q.   My boyfriend likes to wear skirts in the summer because he finds them more comfortable in the hot weather. I find it unbelievably embarrassing and my friends and family make fun of me about it. I told him I don't like him wearing them and he told me ...

A.   28 January 2008: Is it a skirt or a kilt? I know you said Skirt but are you using artistic license and exaggerating about the situation. Be honest here, if it's a kilt, and he's scottish, then that is part of his identity. Any reason other then that...and your ... (read in full...)

Why don't I fancy anyone anymore?

Q.   about a year ago I really fancied a guy but he didn't even know i existed in that way. A little while before that I had a huge 6 month long crush on a fit mate and he never liked me or even considered me. Before that I have had crushes on countless ...

A.   28 January 2008: My first question is, why do you feel the need to have to "fancy" someone? So you don't like anyone...BIG DEAL! Maybe the obvious answer is that you haven't met/found anyone worth liking. I don't understand what the rush is anyways. You're 16 or ... (read in full...)

My mom lies to me, and treats me & my baby like we don't matter.

Q.   My mom is really stressing me out. She lies and is a very selfish person. I have a 9 month old baby and my mom never wants to see her. She never helps me out, if she has a week off work, like this week I asked her if she was off because she ...

A.   28 January 2008: Well first off, you said yourself you know it's a losing battle. Almost everyone wants to have a special relationship with their parents but sometimes it can't or doesn't happen. You just have to suck it up and move on. I can understand that it ... (read in full...)

Do I pursue my ex --is she still interested?

Q.   Hi, Okay, I need some true advice, from someone who is older..i'm 40, my ex is 27. We have been broken up for 8 mos. She doesn't call or write, except a text on X-mas. I don't write her either, or text, except for new years. However, she jus...

A.   22 January 2008: honestly, if it were me, i would just tell her straight up one day in private conversation with her. "listen, I've been thinking alot about what we once had and starting over, and was wondering if there was any way you might have felt the same... (read in full...)

He likes to receive, but won't give. Why not?

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been going out for more than a year. he's my first boyfriend and i really relaly love him. we've been having sex for half a year and he's the one who always initiates it. i do go down on him when i feel he wants it, but i ...

A.   18 January 2008: My question to you is, why are you doing it to him if he won't do it to you? I would stop doing that immediately if he can't give you a better answer then I don't know. There has to be a reason. I was in that situation before where a girl would ... (read in full...)

Why do I take this out on my Parents?.

Q.   dear cupid i am a 17 years of age and currently have a phobia of not being able to defend my self and getting scared of people and the dark. this happened since i got stabbed and has gotten worser to the fact that my hands become paralaysed ...

A.   18 January 2008: I don't know if this will help you, maybe it will maybe it won't. Invest yourself into martial arts. I've been shot and stabbed 3 times (thankfully all on seperate occasions.) Now while i was only stabbed with a box cutters and they were more of ... (read in full...)

How do I ask this girl out?

Q.   This is my issue: When I go to the gym, I run across this girl whom I find attractive. She looks me in the eyes really strongly (or at least thats the impression I have) and I know I'm a decent looking dude, so I don't think its in my im...

A.   16 January 2008: I know this may sound really tired and immature, but try writing her a letter explaining your interest. I only say this because you obviously have a language barrier of some sort. Write a letter to her in plain english (if that's the language you ... (read in full...)

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