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writes:I was going out with a guy a year, he was my best friend and we were so in love. In the Summer we had a few fights, he moved away and starting acting different (saying he cant take me out for meals etc and started to making things "his way" and I didnt like it) i stood up for myself..but was sooo confused as he was such a lovely, decent guy who had changed into someone I didnt even know..we were going out a YEAR and he just cut me out of his life and has seemed to move on without giving me an explanation or a second thought, my dads dead and all of my friends have boyfriends and I feel SO betrayed and alone as I thought he was the one person in the world that wouldnt hurt me! I dont know what to do..I can barely sleep, think or concentrate at university and this is the biggest year of my life(final year) I cant seem to understand why he would do this to me without a explanation, just cut me off like I was a piece of rubbish. I go round each day faking a smile but inside I am dying, the life has been sucked out of me. I am a very nice person and people always said I could do much better than him but I loved him so much as I thought he was such a nice person with a really good heart. how could I have got it so wrong? how can i ever move on and stop this pain I am feeling? any advice would be great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): thank you peeps, any other advice would be great- i just feel so lost and confused all the time.x
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 My heart goes out to you!
Yea theres really just one way...time.
Keep yourself busy!If you are on your final year of UNI (AND I KNOW its hard) but try and make it your BEST YEAR !
WORK hard and play hard and never stop socializing.
I found that speaking to other woman after my 6 year break up was the best! Just the contact not the chasing flirting or any Pulling nature simply just a nice chat helped allot!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 People can be good at covering up who they really are, and i guess unless he tells you what is going on you will never truely know why he done this to you, and the only way forward now is to forget about him and try and move on, i no this is hard, but the worst of it is over it can only get better from here, and believe me no contact after a break up is the best way in dealing with it, so try and get stuck in to your studies but also make time for yourself and things you enjoy doing, make sure you go out with your friends at least one night a week and believe me it will get better, if you have free time were you are always thinking about him then take up a hobby or go for a walk to clear your head, the main healer is time sweetie so just be patient and believe me you will feel better
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