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writes:I'll be 15 very soon and my bf will be 18 in a few months. We want to have sex before it's illegal but he's WAY too paranoid about getting pregnant, he wants to wear TWO condoms AND get on the pill! I know it's a good thing to be careful, but I just want him to calm down a bit. How should I go about talking to him about this? Should I just accept it?
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Tell him to just wear the one condom and book an appointment with your doctor about going on the pill. Two forms of conception are better than one as none are 100% safe. The only 100% safe way not to get pregnant is to not have sex...obviously.
If he waers two condoms at once he risks ripping/splitting them as they rub together so it's a bit pointless. One should do the trick, and if you are on the pill as well it will mean a very slim chance of you falling pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): Wearing two condoms is not going to decrease your chances of getting pregnant, it's going to increase them, don't let him do it.
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reader, Beckto +, writes (10 July 2007):
 If he's freaked out about getting pregnant with you, then I can't blame him! He should be. He's quite mature for an 18 year old!You should be as paranoid too. If you're not then you may not be ready to have sex.I suggest doing what you have to do to get on the pill if you guys are going to go ahead and have sex. If you aren't ready to approach your parents about it, and can't get to a Planned Parenthood office, then you may, again, not be ready for this. I've always said, if you're not mature enough to get the protection you need for sex, then you're not mature enough to have sex.Once you've been on the pill for at least 2 months without missing a pill, then if he wears ONE condom (for reasons stated below by other posters) for added protection, it should be almost impossible for you to become pregnant.But think of this, what's the rush to have sex? You can do other things like oral sex that don't come with the risk of pregnancy. You've got plenty of time in your life to have sex!Take care of yourself, and listen to your boyfriend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): Tell him wearing 2 condoms is stupid because they rub together, cause friction and could possibly tear.
ONE CONDOM.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Its sounds like he is being sensible in considering the consquences of sex like STIs and pregnacy. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel then ask him sabout how he feels and you can come to a calmer comparmise.
But do wait until you are legal, i dont know how old it is as it depends on your state
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): well the pill is 99% effective and one condom is definately enough- are you sure he's not just making excuses? maybe he's just not ready but doesn't want to admit it because he thinks he should be.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Sounds like a very sensible guy to me. I would certainly appreciate him if I would you, many guys leave all birth control up to the women. However if you aren't 16 then I would just postpone intercourse until you are, upside is you won't have to worry at all about pregnancy!
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reader, love-him +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Um well its good, he is tryin 2 take precatuions properly.. one condom should be suffice and make sure you are also on the pill, as condoms fight against STIs etc.. you should just listen to your partners feelings, and be happy with what ever he chooses to do. mail me if u wanna talk x x x
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