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writes: Hi I met a guy in 2020 and ten months after he was arrested and kept in prison. At first he was saying he would get out and that he had done nothing wrong. Then in November just gone he was sentenced to 17 years for a serious gang related crime. He has now said he is appealing this conviction and sentence.I’ve had enough I’ve hung around for 19 months now whilst he’s been locked up with him telling me he did nothing wrong. If he doesn’t win his appeal which I doubt, he will serve at least 12 years I think. I’ve written to him saying I’m sorry but I don’t deserve this life and I don’t think we should continue speaking as this is making me extremely depressed and I mentioned that he knew that I had only just got divorced when I met him and that I had a bad relationship beforehand and that I’m not getting any younger and I don’t need this stress.Fortunately he never asked me for any prison money as his family sort that out. I’ve turned my phone off so he can’t contact me but just feel bad for abandoning him, although yes he abandoned me when he did the crime and didn’t think about me. But still I feel bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2023): I am the OP replying to Kenny.
No I didn’t meet him in 2010 I met him in 2020 as I said in my original post. So I didn’t know him very long at all or what was going on. Also if you read I already said he was telling me that he had done nothing wrong.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (15 January 2023):
 I don't think that you should feel bad, this would be no life for you. I am assuming this when you met him in 2010 he kept that side of his life secret to you?.
OP none of this is your fault, but the best thing you could do now is wish him well and move on, then get a new phone with a new number.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (14 January 2023):
 OP!
You have EVERY right to want a life on your own, a life HE CAN NOT be part of as HE is locked up!
"I’ve turned my phone off so he can’t contact me "
Get a new number, OP You shouldn't have to turn your phone off to avoid his calls. Just change your number. Move on.
Are you abandoning him? No, you are living your life and moving on.
You are not some toy that can sit on the shelf until he gets out.
He made a choice to commit a crime. He is now paying the consequences. He knew that could happen.
Even if he IS innocent (aren't they all? ) he might still have to serve. And you still should have a life to live.
Wish him well and MOVE on.
Next time find yourself a man that is of better quality.
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