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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend (now ex) and I were having a long distance relationship (he's in europe i'm in asia). And things were hard especially since we are 20 and 21 and we are in college. meeting up is always hard. He had made facebook friends with a girl in early 2011 and got pretty close to her. This wasn't an issue because he has many female friends. But now I felt like he was closer to her than to me emotionally, and I was hurt and lonely.I couldnt take it anymore and wanted a 2 weeks break. But he begged me not to and it never happened. But some days later he started saying what he wanted was a relationship with a friend rather than with a stranger( same thing as I wanted)and said a friend had told him she wouldnt mind waking up next to him for the rest of her life. Then he broke up saying he can't take it anymore and we need to take things slower. it was a "break". but days later he said he was guilty and has hurt me too much. in a few days he was undecided again and wanted to visit me this summer. But next day he sends an IM saying "sorry. but there's someone else". now he is with his friend. And he's planning a future with her after two weeks of that incident. But the strange thing is though we avoid each other mostly, when we do talk we still forget time just like we used to, like the breakup never happened (though we never use endearments or flirt. well he does flirt a bit). He told me about his plans (" I will only marry early if that's the only way to be with her") while we were talking like this. Outwardly they're perfect for each other. But is there no hope for me? I want this guy for keeps :/ please help me to get him back (I know most people would tell me to move on.. but i just cant. we've tried that earlier.. is it working for him this time??) Do guys stick with relationships with a close friend?? or is he just on the rebound? And is this because he feels guilty about our past issues??
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 May 2012):
 From your post I think you have no choice but to move on from him, I really do not think there is any hope for you both at all. There is way to much distance between you and he has found himself a girlfriend who he can spend time with and have a relationship that means as a couple they get to spend time together. I think you need to accept that this is not a rebound it is more the fact that he gets to spend time with her and not you. I know it is hard for you to deal with but if you are not prepared to move on from him well then you are just going to keep getting yourself hurt as he is with someone else now and the best thing for you to do is to look for someone who is nearer to you that you can actually have a face to face relationship with.
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