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writes:hy my question is what should i do if my boydriend is 7 years older than me and my parents dont like him should i go out with him even though i love him a lot. Reply to this Question
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reader, Bella55  +, writes (9 March 2007):
Look there is a reason why the age gap matters at YOUR age. As teenagers you go through huge stages, and the gap is actually bigger than what you think. At your age you still trying to love yourself, you cannot possibly love this boy. He is in a completely different level in life, and believe me that he does not want the same things as you. You are way too young to have a boyfriend. You are still a child and you need to concetrate on your studies, and your hobbies and your friends. This boy could cause permanent damage to yourself, and you will only realise this when you have matured a lot more. LISTEN TO YOUR PARENTS, they love you more than any boy or boyfriend could. Please dont take this lightly, you will regret it if you go against your parents wishes, I garantee you on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2007): I'm on your parents side for this one!!!
Your only 10-12 and your "boyfriend" is 7 years older than you - thats a huge age difference at your age!! He is much more experienced than you in everything. You should be hanging out with kids your own age - cos thats all you are still - a kid!!
If he wants to "date" some one as young as you he's only after one thing!! Listen to what your parents have to say - they are only looking out for you and protecting you from guys like himn!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2007): You're 10-12 and he's 7 years older?! Your parents and the previous answers are right.. There is no way a 10/12 year old could possibly go out with a 17/19 year old!! If he is showing interest in you in that way, you must tell someone immediately and you certainly shouldn't go out with him!
I can understand why u might think you like him. When I was 10 up until I was 15 I really fancied my friends brother, who was 9 years older than us. The boys in your school may be immature and you're looking up to someone older and cooler.
I suggest you spend time on your studies and going out with your friends. You're young, you've got your whole life ahead of you to meet plenty of boys! There is something seriously wrong with him if a 17 year old is paying you attention. STAY AWAY from him and TELL SOMEONE if he is!!
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 Your parents are only trying to protect you love. You are still a child and your parents know what boys of 17 can be like! I suggest you listen to your parents and do the normal things that girls your age do. Go out with your friends, have fun and enjoy the freedom of your childhood. Getting involved with people too young will only cause you major problems.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): Normal 18 year old boys do not want to date 10 year olds. Please listen to your parents. I am very afraid that there is something wrong with this boy, he may not be only immature, he may be a pedophile. That is a grown man who wants to have sex with children. Please get away from him and listen to your parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): Hello,
My boyfriend is older than me by seven years also. The difference is, I'm 20 and he's 27 (we began dating when I was 18 and he was 25.)
Seven years is not a huge age difference, but when you're only 10-12, it is TREMENDOUS. The differences between a 10 year old and a 17 year old (or a 12 and 19 year old) are too big to even fathom.
Over the next couple of years you'll be changing in so many ways. If this boy is interested in you, I'd say he has some issues. I'm sure you're a wonderful girl, but no person of his age should be looking at someone who's barely through puberty.
Please find someone closer to your age. Dating a boy of 17-19 when you're only 10-12 just spells trouble.
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reader, chachacha +, writes (8 March 2007):
If you're 10-12, then he must be 17-19.
He will want to have sex with you at that age and you are way too young for that.
With the greatest respect to you, you are still very much a child, yet he is an adult.
I'm afraid your parents are right - he is too old for you. Go out with a boy more your own age - if you're 10, no older than 12, and if you're 12, no older than 14, I'd say.
To help get over your feelings of "love" for him - just remember that if, as a 17-19 year old, he wants to date someone who is only 10-12, then he must be rather immature. In 7 years time, when you are his age, you'll be full mature, but then he'll still be immature and you won't like him anymore. So, you see, there is no future in it anyway.
Best of luck. There must be a lovely boy for you at school, surely.
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reader, JnikkiM +, writes (8 March 2007):
 No you are too young for a man that much older then you. If your age is correct. Your parents are right, you may not realize it now but you will when you get older. He should be arrested for trying to date you.
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