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36-40,
*ozabella
writes:Hello.. I been dating with my bf for 6 years. He is 8 years older than me.Make long story short I broke up with him 2 days ago. The reason is we had agurment and he end it up hit me. I was so scared when he hit me. I was angry. I decited to leave him. We always argue, fight and disagreement. I don't say he is not good man. He is a good person. I know he love me. He said he only lost his mind only one time and hit me. He apologize and broke down and cry to stop me. But I wasn't listen to him. I rent new apartment and move out. He said he's going back to his hometown next 6 months. He wants to become my good friend, he said. But everytime I see him I'm hurt. I love him so much. But its impossible to get back with him and live together. But I can't move on. I don't know how to move on. I don't have any friends to hang out with. I didn't have friends before because he don't like me to hang out with my friends. So, oviously I don't have anyone now. I'm all alone with this situtition. I don't know what to do. We still see eachother and talk as a friend. He talk about what he gonna do when he arrive to his hometown and bla bla bla... I don't know how to control myself to be happy again.I only sleep 3 hrs, I can't eat. All I do is cry all day... Please teach me how to move on... Love you all.. Thanks.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (3 April 2012):
 Stop speaking to him now, tell your friends and family what has happend as they will support you and stop you going back to this idiot. He is NOT in love with you.
men who love women do not hit them.... That simple. Real men don't need to hit women. Only sad little boys who never grew up do that.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (2 April 2012):
There is never EVER an excuse for a man (or woman) to hit his gf/bf! Period. You did the only right by dumping him.
You really want to stop talking to him at all. It doesn't help you that you're still talking to him to get over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012): "He is a good person. I know he love me."
He is not a good person and he doesn't love you.
He is a controller and now a physical abuser taking advantage of the vulnerable immature teenager you were when you met him and who you remain today because that's the way he wanted you to stay.
He's an older guy who preyed on a confused, insecure, impressionable young girl because he knew he had no chance with women his own age while you could not tell the difference between a mature man (which you thought he was) and an older guy who is/was a creep, jerk and loser (which he most definitely is, was and always will be).
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 April 2012):
 It's only been 2 days? No wonder you are still so raw! My best advice is to CUT all contact with him. You can NOT become friend with someone you had a relationship with, until you are TRULY over any kind of emotional attraction and sometimes not even then.
STOP talking to him. tell him you need space and for him to leave you alone.
YOU did the right thing in dumping him. No one should ever hit their partner. Ever.
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