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writes:I'm a female 21 year old medical student..i love my lecturer who is a doctor and married also..i have some different feelings for him. I want to see him all the time..i want to spend a lot of time with him.once i came to his clinic and told him about what i think about him. But he said that he knows it already...i hugged him unintentionaly but he was continuouslt forbidding meAnd also I tried to kiss him. After that he didn't talk to me.What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, PrettyGreenEyes83  +, writes (17 June 2012):
 I know, I have a crush on someone I know and I am a married woman. I am going to post about this matter on here soon, however, I am determined to keep this a crush only. I would NEVER make a move on him the way you did to this doctor guy, firstly because I am unaware of whether the guy I like is in a relationship, and because I am married. Unhappily, mind, but STILL married. I know how intense the feelings can get but girl, you are only young, there's plenty more people out there!!
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reader, Beaniepants  +, writes (2 June 2012):
 If this was turned around, and the man wasn't taking no for an answer, and physically pushing himself on a woman after she repeatedly said NO, he'd be in jail right now, or at the very least have a restraining order slapped on him.C'mon, he said no!! He's married!! Respect that. Would you want some young floozy doing this to YOUR husband one day?? Think about it. Knock it off, hun. Seriously.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (2 June 2012):
 you can only loose in this situation, let yourself get over it
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2012): first of all
try to understand if he interested in you. without acting on your feelings. just observing. if you want to spend more time with him, do specialize in his field.
second
it will cost you a lot of pain, and him a lot of struggle.
third
maybe at the end, you'll discover you're not interested in him at all, but in something he has got that you would like to have.
so, my last advice is:
try to understand better what is your real feeling about him, and respect both of you, in all aspects of your life. professional, at first, emotional, and physical. and do not try again to get closer if he does not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2012): Hi, the fact is he is married, he doesn't have feelings for you and he has forbidden you from hugging or trying to kiss him, you only have one option leave him alone and respect the fact that he can't and doesn't want to be with you.
He is your lecturer, so he can't be with you, he is married, can't be with you. If you do anything more he can go to the person in charge of the place you are doing your course and have you up for sexual harrassment, in which case you could be kicked out of the course, and a record be made against yu which will follow you for the rest of your life, preventing you from getting into another medical corse or in your chosen profession. Stop being selfish and immature, and respect that he does not want you. He is your lecturer nothing more. I am sorry but there is nothing else you can do.
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