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*oco15xxx
writes:Hey guys, so im 18 and recently started a new job, i really enjoy it and get on with everyone, especially this one guy. We started talking alot recently and i have started to have feeling for him, i think he feels the same as he majorly flirty, we go on our dinners and breaks together. When we see eachother in around the store well stop and talk or he come with me were i need to go. On his lunch one day last week he needed to go and pick somthink up from a friends and asked me to walk with him so i did and we really got on well and laughed and flirted the whole time, and he recently walked me home when i finshed and he was only on his break and had to go back to work for which he was late as i live a half an hours walk away. okay so all this is going on but of course he had a girlfriend who he was been with for a year! i have noclue what to do i try to stay away but i really like him. any advice? x
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (26 December 2010):
 Let me ask you this: IF that was Your BF how would you feel?
I think you have to consider that he's a flirt.
You will have to decide what YOU think is appropriate behavior, not so much HIS behaviour but how you react and behave and WHAT you allow him to "do" to you.
Another thing... Ever heard the expression don't crap where you eat? Which means don't date where you work. And specially NOT a guy who is already in a relationship. It doesn't matter how bad/boring/horrible that relationship supposedly is, because you will only see one side of it ( or hear his version). and.... if the relationship is soooo horrible he ought to have the balls to end it, before getting into a new relationship. And consider this.. If he is willing to cheat on his current GF... don't you think he would do the same to you at some point??
I think your best bet is to be his colleague and nothing more.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (26 December 2010):
 hi
theres no harm with being friends with him but the danger here is that you have got stronger than friendship feelings towards him. this guy may just be enjoying the attention, maybe a bit bored with his girlfriend, feels too young to settle down with her, maybe looking for extra sex, just enjoys flirting and having someone flirt with him. all kinds of reasons. are you willing to be with him (date or whatever) while he still has the girlfriend? do you want him to split from his girlfriend so he can go out with you? if this happened could he be someone you could trust as a boyfriend now that you know he is a flirt even when in a relationship with someone. be his workmate, be friendly, try not to flirt with him and do not get too involved with him while he is still with this girl. please try to imagine how you would feel if you had a boyfriend for a year who met a new girl at work and started spending lunch breaks together and flirting. i hope you can meet a nice guy who is single, its a lot less complicated!
xx
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