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writes:Well, this is quite a simple question. All i need to know is this. Does this man fancy me. I've been looking at this from every single angle i can think of, and i come back to yes, he does. But the thing is. He is not like some men.The story is this. Yesterday i went for a quick cuppa at my friends house. She has an older step brother, he is 10 years older than her. He lives with her, so i see him quite often.After me and my friend had finished our chat, including him in it since he was home for the afternoon, i went to wash my pot while she disappeared upstairs to get ready to go out.As i was washing my pot, he came sauntering into the kitchen and cleared his throat and said, 'I found this in the paper.' and when i looked down he had laid down a leaflet from a very popular jewellery shop, and on the front it said, since obviously it is Valentines Day soon 'LOVE' and when i looked at him, wondering what he was telling me for, he said, 'I thought i'd show you, you know, just in case, well, you know.' and then he left the kitchen. Well of course i could think allsorts with my imagination, so i asked some other friends that evening and they said they reckon he was telling me, but in a very indirect way, that he fancies me.But i am unsure. Perhaps it should be clear as day, but i get paranoid and easily embarrassed when it comes to things like this.I have known my friend for 3 years, and i met her brother only a couple of times when we were out. But then he moved into her house, and we see each other quite often. Sometimes i have found him watching me, but never thought anything of it. And sometimes he gives me a shy smile. But still, he has suffered from depression in the past, and he isn't one of those men to go after women, even though he is good looking and has a good sense of humour.I admit that i have a soft spot for him, but i've never fancied him. But now i can't stop thinking about it. And i daresay it might not mean anything at all and he was having a joke, but he is not that type.So there it is. Simple enough. Does he fancy me, or am i reading into things deeper than he probably meant me too??Hope you can helpThanx
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reader, boo22 +, writes (6 February 2010):
 Hi, I reckon he fancies you.
I think you can't stop thinking about him cos there's nothing better come your way for a while.
He sounds very hard work to me. Be careful x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): Methinks you think too much. If you like him take charge and ask him out. No harm done. He'll probably thank you. If you don't don't dwell on the insignificant event.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (6 February 2010):
 You say you've never fancied him. But now you think you might? Because he showed you this advert or because you've taken another look and have re-evaluated his potential as a date for you? He could have some sort of social problem where he can't read cues or something like that. He could be a severe introvert. Would you be happy being with a man like that? He won't suddenly blossom into a social star, but it sounds like that doesn't bother you as much as it might bother someone else.
He may well fancy you. Give him a very simple target to aim at. Smile at him the next time you see him. Stand closer to him, brush your hair back, touch his hand or arm, make contact. Smile some more. Encourage him. Tell his sister you think he's very attractive.
If he asks you out, will you go? If you wouldn't, don't bother sorting this out, don't encourage him at all.
Good luck!
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