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writes:My boyfriend is very passionate during foreplay but when we have sex he stares off into the distance with his eye's open. I know men are visually stimulated but he isn't looking at me... he gets a kind of glossed over look like he's not there. Any idea as to why he would do that? It makes me feel really bad and insecure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): your boyfriend is like most guys they really don't like looking at us or like to think about us because if the do the will cum faster.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 February 2008):
 He is 100% thrusting and withdrawing and enjoying it and there is no more space to think or look anywhere else. It is like he is out of the body experience. LOL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): He could either be fantasizing or thinking of something boring so that he lasts longer. I have done both. I would sometimes think of something boring so that I would last long enough for my wife to have an orgasm and then concentrate on our sex. If her orgasm took too long than I would have to fantasize to get off myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): My bf says that if he were ever to do something like that while having sex with someone it would mean that he is not attracted to them.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (26 February 2008):
 Hi there,
Well, I agree with Collaroy... he may be fantasizing. However, he also may be concentrating really hard. Now, goofy as this may sound, some of us are just not multi-taskers, and particularly when he is focusing on thrusting and whatever other moves he may have, he might have to daze out a little bit. I know that sometimes when I'm in control, I get so focused on what I'm doing, I completely forget about my face - where it's looking, what it's looking at, etc.
So, maybe he's thinking about really steamy fantasies (which is totally possible) or, maybe he's just trying really hard. Next time he's doing it, say something! "Hey, I'm down here!"
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, speedcat +, writes (26 February 2008):
yeah sounds like hes fantasizing,,,but so what there is nothing wrong with it! Men are about visual things and if hes been with you a while then hey maybe hes thinking of .well who knows a victoria secret super model! but try not to take offense to this, arnt you attracted to famous men or even a nice looking guy you know? Like the last guy said once in a while pull out a lingerie item or say something sexy or put a wig on and change your look. Look at the bright side hes fantasizing with YOU not someone else!
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reader, wwwchrissy  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 sounds like he is on another planet to me girl...possibly cloud nine :o) i wouldn't complain if i were you. :o)
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 Hi,
not sure if you want to hear this, but I am pretty sure he is fantasizing.
Now before you think that this is a sign that he is not attracted to you, remember that most people fantasize and that it is totally harmless. I fantasize , my wife fantasizes and we often share these fantasies when we are making love, so it's totally harmless.
I am sure this is affecting your love making though, if you are focused on wondering why he is staring off into the distance I fail to see how your lovemaking would be of the raunchy wild abandonment type as you are preoccupied with something else. This in itself can have an effect on the man, he may think his partner is not enjoying herself, and will drift off thinking of something else, it is hard to keep an erection if your partner looks like she is not enjoying herself. Focus on your lovemaking , dress up in lingerie, talk dirty or whatever and you might just find he stops staring into space so often.
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): Well it could be that if he does look at you he'd probably ejaculate too early, maybe?. I find if my eyes wonder sometimes and I don't stare at my partner, then I can last for a longer period of time, Im not thinking of anyone or anything else it just helps me last a lil' longer. Ask him to say your name when he isn't looking at you so then you know he is thinking of you.
Hope it's a help to you,
The Ziggen x
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