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writes:I met a man online we had two very nice dates in the same weekend. I asked him if he liked me on our first outing he said yes a lot staright away I said I did too. We hugged and cuddeled a bit both times we saw each other, and I mean just hugged - we did not have sex. We both agreed we were looking for more than just sex. We seemed to feel the same about most issues and I thought we got on well. I am 36 he is 40 never married no kids. Our last date was Monday night. I did not contact him after our date. He called me Thursday night left me a message to say hello and see how I was - how was my week. He said we would talk soon. So I called him back and hour later. Left him a message to return his call - I was short and sweet in my response. He sounded sweet and interested in me in his message. Which I have listened too over and over to see if I hear anything off that I could have missed in his tone. So here it is Tuesday 5 days later and I have not heard back from him at all - what went wrong???? I sent him a text Sat. to just say hello and no response. Again what went wrong??? What Happened. Maybe he is just not that into me - but then why did he even bother to call Thursday night???I did not call him or bother him at all - as a woman I know the rules. I feel certin he liked me. After all he called me. So what the hell happened???
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you ladies -
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (26 January 2010):
 He changed his mind, he met someone else, he decided he wasn't that interested, he was dating three other women and decided he was more into one of them...and on and on the list goes.
If I've learned anything it's not to think about these things too much. What it comes down to is that he's no longer interested...and that's all you need to know.
You did well and you should do no more. I'm sure you're great and he just wasn't the right guy for you. You need to keep moving and meeting other men. Don't overanalyze and overthink things...and don't expect too much.
Go out on dates, enjoy the company and the conversation. Act interested but don't be too eager. If a man wants you he will chase you, trust me. He will not miss the opportunity if he really wants to be with you.
And if this guy does get in contact and asks to see you again, think carefully about obliging. If you really must, don't be too eager and take things slow. But generally, if he ignores you and acts in this way, the chances of things working out are slim.
So, you don't need to know what happened...all you need to know is that things didn't work out as you'd hoped and that he wasn't the guy for you. Move on and find someone a million times better than this guy.
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reader, samehere +, writes (26 January 2010):
 Okay - so here's what happened.
He liked you - yes. However, he just decided he doesn't want to pursue is as he doesnt' want to settle for this yet. He decided not to call you or contact you at all after your second date.
Thursday night, he was bored. For some reason, he didn't have anythign to do so he thought he'd give you a call. Which he did and left you a message. Some plan suddenly came up when you called him back and he was preoccupied. Given the fact that he's not interested in you anyway at this point he decides not to call you back. Same thing on Saturday since he heard from you.
Don't contact him again. He is well aware that he needs to return a call and a text. You've done your part. now back off.
He'll get bored soon. He'll be in touch with you again. Now it's your call. Do you want to respond and be played again? Or do you want to ignore him for a while before you respond again? Or do you want to just move on (recommended). It's up to you. Keep me updated. Good luck..
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