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writes:A friend of mine caught her husband after he had a weekend fling with a woman he'd met through an intimate encounters website. He said he's made a mistake. They went for counselling. She forgave him. Now she's just found out that since then he has become involved in an affair that has gone on for more than a year. He said he never planned to fall in love with the "other woman," but that he couldn't help it. He said he doesn't know if he wants to end his marriage. Should my friend forgive him and try again? Can a man like this ever be faithful to his wife? What advice should I give my friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): i suspect he won't change, at least not until he is too old and infirm to chase other women
my uncle cheated on my aunt repeatedly for 25 years. on her death bed(cancer)aged 52 her last words were 'i've wasted my life'
those words are etched in my memory and have deeply affected me. there are many sacrifices to be made on both parts in any committed relationship but tolerance of repeated infidelity isn't one of them. encourage your friend to see a counselor to help her repair her damaged confidence and self esteem. she deserves to be happy
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 February 2010):
Forgive once, never twice. He has failed her twice, and that's too many times. Tell her to walk away and explain that he has had his chances.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): She should get rid. Some people are born to cheat. He is one of them. Not all men cheat and some women are just as bad. If they think they wont be caught they will do it again.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 Your friend needs to walk away from someone who has hurt her and disrespected her. The first time would have been enough for me to walk away but a second?
People treat us the way we allow them to. What message do you think she will be sending him if she doesn't walk out now? It's ok to cheat, you can always come back.
He's got security and a home with her and he screws around the rest of the time. He's worthless.
Tell her to walk away, be strong about it and offer her all your support. No one should be subjected to this sort of discrespectful behaviour.
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