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writes:My boyfriend recently spent the night with me. We got it on before going to sleep and both had a good time. The next morning, we're both sitting up in bed (I was naked, he was in boxers) and watching tv. Next thing I know, he's playing around with his morning wood. I have no objection to pleasing him, but he didn't ask me to do anything, he didn't even say a word, he wasn't even looking at me. He was just carrying on while watching tv. We've talked about having morning sex before, so if he was horny, why didn't he mention it? He was just ignoring me, and I was getting uncomfortable and it made me feel unwanted, so I got out of bed and went over to the sofa to watch tv. He stayed in bed for like five more minutes, and then joined me on the sofa and tried to cuddle. Why would he want to masturbate instead of having sex with me? Or even letting me go down on him? Or at least LOOK at me or say something!? It was really uncomfortable for me and I felt unattractive and invisible. Why would he do this and how can I express how it made me feel? I don't know how to talk to him about this.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (10 February 2010):
 Hi young ! you feel more, for just little things. You both can discuss the issues. And, about masturbation, it is also a type of 'intercourse', just it happen in hand, and not in vagina...but it generate pleasurable energy, which is notable thing. Sex required more cognition and more communication. So, create good dialogue in your mind, take it as a home work, and be communicative...sure, life will be filled with new air of pleasure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): Sometimes guys just do this. Now if he's going all out, masturbating, finishing, ejactulating and doesn't even look at you; well, there's nothing wrong with that either...But I can see where that might make you feel unappreciated.I know I sometimes masturbate just so I can last longer when I do have sex with my girl. And sometimes cuz I'm just in the mood right there and then. Like in the shower. I'll just do it. Even though my fiancé is in the bedroom I don't bother her to come do it with me because I just don't think of it.I really think he just did it. No thought to it, no intentions. Just felt like masturbating.Just sit him down, tell him you love him and next time he wants to masturbate you would love to do it for him.I don't think he'll have a problem with that. Tell him you would rather do it than have him do it himself. See what he says.I wish my girl was more like you in that sense!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): Some guys just touch themselves. Which it sounds like that's what he was doing. I wouldn't worry. As soon as he saw something was bothering you he came over and cuddled you. Sounds alright to me!
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